How do you differentiate between infatuation & true love? At what age infatuation stops? ?

Basically there are two types of people and two types of romantic love (although type two has a variation for most types of platonic relationships also. You see it often with mothers toward their children.) Love type one: Eros love - This is what they are talking about when you read about the love chemical. It has a huge effect on this stage of love. This is the love Jack and Rose had for each other in Titanic. You feel it in the beginning of a relationship. You are completely obsessed with the other person. Passion and fire is rampant. You rarely think of other things. You tell people you are in love. They can do no wrong in your eyes. It is exciting. You feel completely desired, wanted, and worthwhile. This love has an expiration date. It wears off. You start to see their flaws. It gets old. I've heard this can last up to about three years. Some people let the "love" go, saying it has become boring and they don't feel the same way. Often this is for the best, but sometimes they let go because of immaturity and look for the next best thing, the next high. This first stage of love has to happen to get to the next one. I'm sort of glad it expires, because you wouldn't be very productive or balanced if you were completely obsessed with a person forever. Love type two: Agape love (agape is an old greek word for "love feast" and I've often heard it adopted in this culture to describe this second type of love) - If you are lucky, you go into this second stage. This is commitment love. It is characterised by unconditional positive regard, patience, and self-sacrifice. There are ups and downs, but you stick with it bc you realize that real love isn't a feeling, it's actions, loyalty, and grace. This takes maturity and you generally have to have developed a real friendship with the person that will whether the ebb and flow of emotions. Sometimes the fire re-surfaces on special occasions, but it's not as all-consuming or long-lasting and brainless as eros was. This is what the 80 year olds celebrating their 60th anniversary have. This love protects the other's heart and shows love with actions even when they don't FEEL love for the other. Obviously, it seems like this is rare, and it is pretty rare. It requires unselfishness and for people to lay down their pride from time to time. That also takes intelligence. But it happens. They may not always be perfect to each other, but by and large, they go the distance because the majority of the time spent together is this kind of eternal love. You just have to realize that in real life, it's not the fantasy people represent it to be. It's work, it's family. It's not everlasting eros. There is more of a choice, and I think this means more. If it's easy to love and treat you right, you should expect it. If it's a constant effort that reaps sweet rewards, it means a lot. Love is patient, Love is kind, It does not envy, it does not boast, It is not proud, It is not rude, It is not self-seeking, It is not easily angered, It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. L o v e N e v e r F a i l s. Two types of people: people capable of agape, and people who aren't. Most young people haven't been through the hardships, experiences and life lessons to be capable of thinking of others. Most young people are worried about their image and their own futures. Real love takes maturity. Some young people can have it, but most are just not there yet in my opinion.

infatuation is puppy love. Deep love is when you live with the person & can read each ones mind as to what he or she needs with out telling. Give & take.

It's infatuation if the relationship lasts less than one month. After that, it could go either way. I'm still with my high school sweetheart, we're about to have a baby :) We're several years out of high school though.

I think it takes a stroke of luck to meet your true love. With your true love, there's no doubt in your mind that you'd WANT to marry him/her. However, true love takes a lot of work...most likely because the two of you need to resolve lots of insecurities thru each other.

i definitely agree with what you're saying . i hate the "kids are clueless" thing . & as i was reading over someone else's answer , he said "you look for something different when you're 25 than when you're a teenager" , which is true . but also , while you have grown so has the one you are with , and if you've been with them since you were younger then they're going to know what you want & vice-versa . i think infatuation is more of adoring someone , & is a good word to use for the less mature , "serious" relationships you become involved in . as love is more of ultimately caring for someone , & wishing they would be happy even if they're not being happy with you . i love my boyfriend , & seeing him upset nearly tears me into pieces . as to if any of my exes had been upset , i would've asked what was wrong , attempted to fix it , & if it didn't work , shrug my shoulders & continue on in life . & might i note that when i say mature , im not referring to being physically mature ... im talking strictly mentally . there's a lot of adults that still don't know what they're looking for , so age isn't the big key to love .

infatuation doesnt stop but reduces after 18 for women and 21 for men.... This is mainly a play of sexual hormones during the developmental age.... But you will know true love when you find it...

Infatuation never last long, but LOVE lasts forever....................

Infatuation is you like a person rather admire a person for his looks, behaviour, etc. In love you like him rather adore him....most important you want him to be happy and you get involved in his joys and sorrows.

Love is there from the cradle,its what makes the wourld go round,but love as a child in school towards another child is not the love as two adult people feel for each other,you can and do get infatuated in you,r teems with th opposite sex by the same sex whichever the case may be,but its hardly ever the kind to buld a life upon,Though you may love the person i personaly dont think that young teens enough expirience to go into it deeply regards family ect,so baically id say no children or young teens Dont fall in love as an adult would.