When in a relationship, how do you deal with your own jealousy?

The way I deal with my small bouts of jealousy is honesty. I've told her in the past that I get twinges of jealousy here and there, but I always tell myself the same thing to keep it from becoming a problem: She's not my property. She's a gift to the world. I trust her. I have nothing to worry about. Even though this method works for me I tell her anyway, because I love her and our policy is complete and total honesty.

Security in a relationship comes from within but also your partner. I have never doubted either of my partners, not because I lack insecurities but rather because they never gave a reason to doubt them. You can usually sense if something is wrong instinctively if you are being lied to or cheated on even if you cant consciously pinpoint it. You should always communicate this with your partner but be sure to clear up whether your doubts stem from insecurity or whether you instinctively sense something is wrong.. Don't automatically put blame on yourself and assume its you...youd be surprised on how much your instincts pick up on. You should definitely communicate this with your partner and make sure it doesn't build up or you somehow take it out in other ways. A caring loving partner will understand and you can figure out a way to work through it. You can overcome jealousy with affirmations. Generally they come from self doubt or fear of being hurt. I would look at where they stem from and deal with that, because if it comes from within itll be there in any relationship. Communicate it with your partner and explain how you feel, and figure out ways to work through it together. So for example if there are certain things that your partner does that triggers those feelings, bring it to their attention so that they are aware of it and are more mindful. A loving, caring partner will ressure you and will help build your confidence and trust with it. Whatever you do, be aware that the problem is internal and be aware if this impacts the way you treat your partner as a result of it. Either way, being open about it is the only way to fix it because then youll find ways to overcome it. Ultimately if it manifests and is not dealt with you can act it out I other ways and hence push someone you love away or hurt them. I hope this helps

I think everyone is at least,  a little bit insecure or vulnerable in different aspects. No one is 100% confident, as much society claims we should be... Most of us are not. The way to deal with it, in my opinion, is acknowledging our vulnerabilities,  not sweeping under the carpet and pretend we don't feel. You're not going to become less jealous just because you decided not to, unless you have the ability to turn off your emotions.. Which not only it's harder but you end up turning off even the good emotions. I do have jealousy issues sometimes,I admit. I talk ababout it with my partner,  without blaming him.  Because some things are rooted in my past experiences and he has zero rresponsibility on it. Some other issues he kind of triggered them, but after a long conversation we got into the conclusion that he didn't mean to hurt me and he deeply respects me. And that's what I needed to know. You have to ask yourself what do you need that you don't have, if your partner can give it to you or if you have to work it in yourself. But whatever you're feeling, share it with your partner.  But not in a blaming way, but let her aknowledge your vulnerabilities and get her to know how you are. Get both comfortable with it. I can say  that my boyfriend has insecurity issues like I do, but in different aspects of our relationship. He doesn't talk much about it or he barely admits when he's jealous or insecure. But I do can tell by his attitudes. And pretending that he's not insecure or hiding it,  doesn't make him appear more secure..  And doesn't help much. I know him better than that. I do love him also due his vulnerabilities and flaws. It feels human to me and makes me think we're much alike. Of course he's not a stalking psycho or an abusive guy like I met before my, otherwise there would be no way we could work things out. Be honest with your partner and accept your and her flaws. I think it's the best way to deal with it.

Some (but not all) jealousy can be driven by low self-esteem and insecurity about oneself. However, none of us are in a position to understand why another person would love us. We may be able to understand some of the attractive qualities in ourselves, but consider this: Any one could think that there are more attractive, successful , funnier, smarter etc.. people than all of us, but just remember that these qualities come part of a product. If a person loves you it is because of a certain undefinable characteristic that they can't even explain, some part of our character that transcends physical beauty, wealth, youth etc. Never try to work out 'why' someone loves you. Just be glad that they do, and appreciate everything about them that you love, they will do the same for you.