How do I become a better student?

How do I become a better student? (How do you learn?)

• My problem is that I want to learn things but instead I am very passive about my life. I try new things but quickly give up. I start working out and quit after a month or so. I pick up a book but stop reading it after 50 pages,. I don't engage in anything nor do I have any hobbies, passions or interest's. I only google trivial stuff online everyday and have been doing so for a very long time, probably for years. I don't even pay my bills in time. Also I don't have any money so I can't really afford anything. I can't date nor go out. I have wasted a great deal of my life sitting at home doing nothing. I tend to lie on the couch and fantasize a lot. I have been a student for a couple of years now and I have barely managed school. I always tend to procrastinate and fall behind with my grades. Which is kind of sad because I am intelligent, my only issue is that I don't comprehend anything while sitting in class due to being overly self conscious. I don't learn anything while working in groups. I don't understand how people can be so engaged in everything they do. They read books, they do their assignments and papers as if it was nothing. I on the other hand feel very frustrated and try to force myself to do everything. My thoughts feels like gravy. I drink a lot of caffeine and often times become stressed and neurotic, finally reading the whole night before exams or write papers almost in a couple of day's. Everyone seem so alert, full of life and are always positive. They have families, hobbies, they work out and even have jobs while they are going to school and I am wondering if they are all some kind of alien machines trying to take over the world? I am so jealous of my friends who are doctors and lawyers and are able to live life like adults. I am an adult and am becoming too old for college soon (I'm 30 something) and have been sporadically working jobs that has ruined my body. My main problem is that I want better grades and be good at math which I have sucked at my whole life. I want to become serious about my professional life and how I stand in my community. The only way of achieving this is becoming a better learner and student while keeping up with life. Why do some people seem so focused and engaged in the things they do? How come some people always do something and learn new stuff and experience new things. I don't have anything to share and I don't know anything. I don't want to be half-minded any more! I don't know what is wrong or if people understood something while I never did when it comes to learning. How do you absorb new things? How do you get a better understanding of theory and become a faster learner?

• Answer:

  Listen to your teachers and parents in china is enough