We Want to Adopt a Son Child? How can we do?

http://www.adoptuskids.org/ There is a boy waiting for a home--guaranteed. Get your homestudy done...and off you go. There are other ways...but no guarantees.

Is this a joke? I think any adoptive mom you talk to, even thru an agency should have to look at this post and I guarantee you they will change their mind about you. Just a tip, here is how your post should read: We want to adopt a baby boy [its not a question, its a statement] How can we do this? [how can we do is an incomplete thought] We have an 8 year old daughter, [why would you refer to YOUR children (and possible children) as girl and boy?] and we want to adopt a son [or a boy]. What do we need to do next? Possibly even an older child [since you said child, not baby] Your grammar is horrendous as is your going on Y!A to see how you can get a "boy Child"...if you really want to adopt go to an agency or foster care. You will find no children on Y!A.

Why a boy? Is it because you want him to do boyish stuff? Sorry love, but while you might be able to get away with it with much of the male population, we don't all turn out like that - I be a (reversed) case in point: My APs thought they were adopting a little girl, but I never have been. I describe as medically female, because my body is, and there's no point in messing about with what ain't actually broke. I also have several close friends who're trans, so "picking" the sex of a kid doesn't guarantee the kid'll be the gender you "picked". I'm also one of them "bitter adoptees" that people like to rant about. I actually love my afam very much, and it's because they are such a fantastic family that knowing that I didn't know *any* of that about myself hurt so much. So I give you warning; as an AP, you're never gonna be able to win. Even if you're good, you can still lose. I was abandoned to adoption at 7mths old, and would like to give you a word of caution - not to put you off being willing to help a child who honestly and truly needs help, but to make you aware that adoption isn't always the rainbow farting unicorns as depicted in the media. I honestly and truly wish that I'd been aborted instead of abandoned to adoption, so please be prepared for the fact that any kid you adopt could grow up (I'm 37, so definitely and legally a "grown up" in pretty much everywhere) to be as screwed up as me. I didn't have a bad adoption - my afamily are the best I could ever have chosen... but if I'd been able to choose, I'd've chosen to be aborted before birth instead, 'cause at least that way the lifetime of agony I've gone through would've been over in minutes, instead of the decades I've been suffering for now. I've been in reunion with my bfam for a while now, and even that's proving to be completely agonising. Taken from Nancy Verrier's book, Coming Home to Self: http://www.nancyverrier.com/self_book.php For the adoptee every day is a challenge of trying to figure out how to be, although he probably doesn't understand the difficulty this presents for him. It has been true his whole life and, therefore, feels normal. However, it takes a great deal of energy and concentration. And it never feels quite right. He never quite fits. Therefore he feels as if /he/ is never quite right. (pg 50) Abandonment and neglect are reported to be the two most devastating experiences that children endure - even more devastating then sexual or physical abuse. That's why some neglected children do naughty things to get attention. Even though the attention is hurtful - being yelled at, hit, or otherwise harmed - it is better than neglect. /Anything/ is better than abandonment. Abandonment is a child's greatest fear. For adoptees, it is also reality, embedded in their implicit and unintegrated memory. (pg 102) It is sometimes difficult to spot grief in children. After all, it isn't as if the child sits in a puddle of tears his entire childhood. As one adoptee said, "Of course I played, laughed, sang. Do people think that if you're not sitting in a corner with your head on your knees, you are not sad? I had happy times, but the sadness was always there, even when I was having fun." (pg 117) Please read back through a few months worth of resolved questions in here http://answers.yahoo.com/dir/index?sid=2115500138 and then go read through all of the books and links listed at http://7rin-on-adoption.dreamwidth.org/tag/recommended+reading Comprehend that lot, and you'll be about ready to adopt. :)

Contact an adoption agency in your area or check with your local social services office.

go through an adoption agency! good luck ! :) Did anyone else think the first person's answer was ****** up? Thats some creepy stuff.

By not coming here. Get in touch with an adoption agency.

I'm sure that won't be a problem. A good start is to get in touch with an adoption agency to find out more. You might have a harder time picking the sex of an unborn child since many of the babies are matched before they even find out the sex. Then again, keep trying, you'll find what you're looking for. http://adoption-agencies.org

Okay you contact an adoption agency.

Check with a private agency in your area.