What herbal remedies would you recommend to ease tensions, nerves and stress ?

Lavender is very good But I would also look at non-herbal remedies, people get very hung up on herbal remedies thinking they are better for you. St John's wort for example is contraindicated by many other medications and can cause more harm than good. Depending on the severity of your stress you should talk to your doctor about your situation.

i like sleepy time tea

Rescue Remedy from Dr Bach

Kava Kava

Bachs rescue remedy, it costs about £5 from herbalist or supermarket. Its made from a variety of flowers.

chamomile tea works wonders!

Kava Kava, Skullcap, Passion Flower, Cat Nip, Peppermint Tea, Valerian Root, 5 Http Tryptophan, Melatonin.

This may be innapropriate and maybe illegal... But I find that marijuana helps me through the problems that you described. Alot of people may think bad things about it, but it really isnt that bad if your just chilling and smoking.

Valerian Seratone 5-HTP