My roomate has Asperger's Syndrome, I don't know how to deal with it. Help!?

Talk to your coordinator and get a new roomate, I doubt anyone will tolerate him well.

I would confront him directly, tell him what he is doing is unacceptable and things are going to have to change. Lay out some ground rules. If he balks at that, then go to the RA and see about getting another roommate. You shouldn't have to tolerate that kind of behavior.

you have to talk to him about what you dont like and BE SPECIFIC do not be vague or he wont know what you mean people with asperger's syndrome ( including me) have problems reading other people's feelings he may not know your annoyed at him. or he may know but not sure what you are annoyed at you need to put precise bounderies like ask before touching something of yours also ry to explain you need space and not to come so close to him. the humping thing you need to adress exactle like you see it. it may not be what you think he may not be actally "humping" he could be rocking back and forth "stimming" it is an autistic behaivoir that has NOTHING to do with ssexual stuff at all. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stimming http://autism.about.com/od/autismterms/f%E2%80%A6 i especially suggest you read this http://autism.wikia.com/wiki/Stimming IF it it turns out he is actually humping Make IT CLEAR that it bothers you and ask him politely to do that when you are not around. the hygene thing just tell him flat out you need to shower. suggest to him to make a list of things he needs to o so he cant forget. The noise to wake him up you have to deal with. somepeople are just light sleepers. i suggest when you have a talk with him perhaps show him the questions and this answer i gave tr to make compromizes with him if that doesnt work then go to an advisor and try to change rooms

wow, sorry you have to deal with that, but the truth is, as you know, he has a problem, it wont go away, and its unlikely to get much better the only thing you can do is, ask for a change of room mate or room, or tolerate it as much as you can, but be hoenst with him he wont know boundaries unless you TELL him them so get soem rules they follow specific directiions and rules well, if it fits into their normal routine so if you want him to keep out of your things, say that but ttry to make it less agresive thanit feels, more like just a fact of living with a room-mate and maybe make a night of it, have some tv , get to know him, lossen him up a bit, get some food in, let him talk to you for abit then say i have something id liek to talk abotu too if thats ok..and gently but firmly, state your needs and pander to his rationality and sence of logic, as a n asperget he cant understand anything YOU need, so talk in sences of what HE needs so maybe go with, if you want to have some privacy we can arrange this, then if he says no im ok, say thats great, but as you knwo we all haev differnt needs, id liek to have some privacy if thats ok just try to bring it up and in gently, but seriosuly and firmly the one thing you cant do is keep it to yourself thats no good for either of you and yes although isotpe said it al wrong, they CAN change, but most of them fidn it very VERY difficult, but over time can get into a routine but, just dont expect it to all end brilliantly, only expect that you can try to ask, and he can try to give

I would just tell him to back away from you, tell him how far away to stand, tell him you don't wan him touching your things or using them without asking because you like to know where they are. People with Asperger's need to be told how you are feeling because they are not going to pick up that they are bothering you. They might see that you have a problem with them just by how you are treating them but they won't understand why. You can also tell him you aren't interested in knowing everything he did that day and you like having quiet time and not listen to him yap. You can also tell him to start flushing because it's disgusting to see his pee in there and tell him he needs to shower because he smells and you can't stand it. If he doesn't seem to understand your space and your things and keeping clean, I would start giving him a taste of his own medicine and if he can't stand the things you do such as moving his things (aspies hate change), tell him that's how you feel about him so he needs to listen to you and respect you. Sometimes we need a taste of our own medicine to learn how that other person feels about situations we put them through. You can also start telling him he hurt your feelings or you are offended by that remark whenever he says something that hurts your feelings or offends. If he says something inappropriate you can tell him that. It's possible he might talk less to you because he be afraid of offending you or upsetting you and that's a good thing. If you need privacy, just tell him. Verbal communication is the key here, (not social cues and non verbal cues and body language) and give him logic by explaining why to everything like why you want privacy, why he needs to flush, why he should shower more often because lot of them want to know why or else they won't listen. And it is annoying to be told this or that and not be given the reason why so I just ignore it thinking they are being bossy or it's just their opinion unless I am at work. Work is different or else lose your job for not obeying your boss or doing as you're told. I personally think bosses are just lazy and abuse their powers but that's life and I deal with it. Do not assume some of the things he does he can't help. That isn't true. But the part where he says inappropriate things he can't help because he doesn't know it's wrong so that's why he needs to be told. The rest sounds like it can be fixed easily through communication and informing him like to stand an arm length away from you and you like your personal space. You have to be an *** to not listen to people, even if you have AS. A caring aspie will listen and try and understand. Those books out there on AS are so wrong about us lacking empathy and all. It's just a misconception doctors have made on us because we come off that way to them.

He CAN control his behavior, he chooses not to. Asperger people are not mentally disabled. They lack social skills and awareness which they CAN learn. He just chooses not to give a damn about what you want or are comfortable with, Aspergers people are EXTREMELY self centred and self involved and as a person with your own rights you dont exist for him and what you want isnt important to him. You dont hav to accept this, ask for a different room and get on with your life. And NO you dont have to be understanding of any disabled person who is choosing to disrespect you and your rights and sensitivities - not in this situation. This is reverse discrimination, treat him as you would anyone else. He knows better, he is just walking all overr you. .

Tell the accomodation bureau what he is DOING (or not doing) that you find unacceptable, including failing to wash, failing to flush the lavatory and humping the bed. Explain how this is damaging you opportunities to study. I strongly advise that you don't even mention the bisexuality or atheism. In my culture, discrimination on the basis of either of these is illegal and mentioning them might weaken your case. His behaviour is anti-social and you should not have to share with him. If you don't get a very fast change in sharing arrangements, go to the burser (the one who handles the fees and explain to him that you are not getting what you paid for.) Ask for a refund. This usually concentrates the minds of those that collect the money. He may ask you to keep a diary of what happens. Keep it plain and factual, but do not gloss over objectionable behaviour. Do not gloss over any impact it has on your academic work. Tell your tutor what is going on.

Unless you move out, you continue to have some problem with someone who was poorly trained by parents. Some untrained autistic person are going to have problem with hygeine, privacy, and their "opinion" conflicting with your space. My suggestion is if you are planning to stay in his room is to take actions. He would follow your rules, you will need to buy air freshener (make it strong and obnoxious), he will flush toliet if not then you can punish him with water balloons, if he doesn't take shower then spray him with soapy water. His private business should be conducted behind closed door unless you are being nosey.

can you go ask for another room as he sound an unsuitable roommate. He also sound like he need a specialist to help with those issues. A man I meet use to have the job of going around to special ed /schools and talk about issue as private and public etc. Maybe he need to learn more of that. My friend sister has Aspergers and got to close to people she don't know like the post man.