Would a freeze of US-Russia adoptions over case of 7 year old boy be too extreme?
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There have been countless successful international adoptions, and to propose an adoption freeze between the US-Russia over one highly publicized case with the Hansen family strikes me ...show more
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No, I don't. I think that Russia should halt new adoptions and go case-by-case on the ones that are in-process. Ferbs was right on the money. There are a lot of breakdowns here. Everyone is very eager to talk about the faults of the adoptive mother (and there are definitely things to investigate here) but the problem goes beyond her. The Russian adoption program has a disproportionate amount of adoption disruptions, as compared to other IA programs. Why is that? The allegations of abuse and neglect in Russian orphanages has gained worldwide attention-- what role does this play in the number of disruptions? The allegations that Russian authorities have misled adoptive parents on the needs of the child they are adopting is not a new allegation put forward by this family. Many other families have accused Russian authorities of doing this before.-- what role does this play in the number of disrupted adoptions? On the US side-- why are there a disproportionate number of adoptive parents that abuse or abandon Russian adoptees? -- Why aren't they being screened out in the process? Were they adequately prepared? Whose responsibility is it to ensure that PAPs are fully aware of and prepared for these kinds of illnesses in children? Post-placement visits and annual reports are required -- why aren't these picking up on problems early on? Why are there so few resources out there for parents who have seriously mentally ill, or even violent, children in their care? This goes beyond Russian adoptions or even IA, there is very little support available for ANY family in this situation. There are numerous blogs from parents who are literally living in fear inside their own homes and all the rest of the community can say is, "Well, you're an adoptive parent! You signed up for this! If you child has problems, it's YOUR fault!" (Not the prior abuse-neglect or the prenatal alcohol exposure, it MUST be the AP's fault!) So yeah, there are a lot of issues here that need to be examined. It must go deeper than "Blame the mother and all adoption is bad!" If you don't think that the Russian system has some responsibility here also, you need to take off your rose-colored romantic view of orphanage life glasses.
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No...it's not too extreme. Seems to me, even ONE case (and there are more than one) is grounds for suspension and review of what is going wrong. This case isn't about one child...it's about an entire system that let this boy down. From the orphanage to the social agencies to the "parent" etc... all the way to the airline all the way to the governments involved. I would add that I suspect it really started before that but since I do not know the specific circumstances of why he was placed for adoption in Russia by his mom in the first place, I can't say for sure. My gut tells me she also fell through the cracks. So...not extreme. That boy has put a face to what is clearly a flawed program. We shouldn't need a series of occurrences to support fixing it. One is too many.
Ferbs
"Successful" for whom?
aloha.girl59
Not too extreme at all - extreme would be doing what *I* think should be done and stopping all adoptions all over the world until the mess that is currently Adoption gets cleaned up and sorted out so that it goes back to being For The Good Of The Children - since that's what it's s'posed to be about.
7rin
This was not the only one case. It was the last drop. There were more accidents when Russian children end up dead in the USA. And I'd say the probability to die in the USA for the Russian children is much higher than in any other place. May be it is some kind of Nazi behavior of the Americans toward Russians. For example see here:
Keeper
It isn't only the Hansen family though, there have been several cases of children who were abused or killed here after being adopted from Russia. This indicates to me that it is resonable for Russia to freeze adoptions, at least until they can find a more accurate way to screen prospective parents.
Bookwarm
No, in fact, I just wish other countries would do the same and force America to look at is huge unethical practises in adoption. I don't get why everyone is so surprised about what happened to this poor child; I am so used to hearing appalling stories like this and worse coming out about adoption... maybe one day something extreme enough will happen and change will finally occur. Until then, more and more children will suffer as adults play with their lives.
myst1998
Looking at another answer, I also seem to recall a case of some poor russian kid dying in a hot car because his adoptive father forgot about him...
Happy Penguin
What is so "successful" for a child to grow up in a foreign heritage and without the ability to pass on the distinct values of culture? Freezing adoption is a must because it's not natural and because it's turned into a market.
Cleopatra
No, I do not think it is extreme to freeze adoptions until they have figured out a better way to track adoptees. This was a last straw after 3 deaths of Russian children. Currently, it's in their interest to blame the a-parent. At the same time, there needs to be some protections for adoptive parents. It is clear that the Russian authorities are withholding information about some of these children and giving them to a-parents who have NO CLUE or training on how to deal with such emotionally troubled children. As another poster says, why does the Russian program have so many disruptions? I DON'T think it has to do with the selection process of the a-parents as they are generally more strict than most of the other programs. See the story at the link below. What we didn't know until yesterday is that the 14 year old was adopted from Russia as a toddler and who became very dangerous. He was like this while still quite young. The parents exhausted their finances trying to get help for him and eventually gave up their rights to the child to the state. He was returned by 2 couples who were considering adopting him due to violence. He even tried to poison one of his prospective adoptive fathers.
CarbonDated
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