I need to find a website like ebay that isn't ebay?

Try selling your items on google base http://base.google.com. While it differs significantly from ebay there are no listing fees or necessarily any other fees unless you use very specific google services (google checkout) they do allow for fixed, negotiable, and minimum (like auction) listings and have a large user base. It's worth checking out even if you just add it to your marketing efforts.

www.paulsonauction.com

http://www.ubid.com/ http://auctions.overstock.com/

Have you looked at Craigslist?

Yahoo also has this service.

I agree that eBay is becoming a real annoyance. But the truth is, there simply is no other marketplace on the internet that comes anywhere close to what eBay can offer in terms of exposure and sales. I've tried most of the others, and have never done 5% of the business that I routinely do on eBay. So, the wise businessman swallows his pride and anger and stays with eBay... and just goes on making money!! After all… that’s what we’re in this for, right??