Psychologically, why does the truth hurt?

Plainly Dad... its because people would rather shoot the messenger than listen to the message. In our disposable world with our disposable lifetstyles, its easier to compartmentalize and discard any other notion than our own... Its really that simple..

I think the reason the truth hurts so much is the person believes so much in his own view it is hard to accept he is wrong. I have also noticed the same thing, you answer a question to the best of your ability only to get a snide remark about why the TC's are always giving advice. Hello world if I am asked a question in a category I know something about then I will give you an answer that solves your problem, TC or not.

I feel that people like us as humans have been sort of "programed" through the years not to see ourselves as "wrongdoers" in general. Some of us do, the worriers of the world. But in the big scheme of things most of us don't see the wrong we do, we don't want to see the wrong we do. So when someone points that out to us we are so very easily hurt. So in the words you have written above............... THE TRUTH HURTS........most of us, that is. nfd

I would guess that the truth hurts, because we naturally defend our points of view, whether or not their based in reality. It's all in the ego. Most of us would have a hard time leaning back and considering the other guys point of view. We have invested too much thought into our own opinions. As far as answering violation questions. I have to wonder, if a person didn't want to know, why did they ask? I'm sure when they are given a reasonable answer without insult, there is no valid reason to get piqued.

It's simple. No body likes to hear that they are wrong. They simply want a pat on the back and congratulations on their undeserved applause. If you tell them they are wrong you may also be disrespecting them in their eyes if they are older or a person of power or some body who thinks they know a lot about a subject. Finally they feel bad about being wrong. Some people think they are dumb or get angry that they failed. No body likes to fail and being wrong means they failed to achieve their desired affect. If they feel they should succeed and anything less is failure they may feel guilty that they failed or that they not only let themselves down but that they usually let some body else down whose opinion of themselves they care very much about. The may also fear the penalties for their failure or betrayal by a person or group of people who give them a face full of reality. Add all this together and the truth hurts...A LOT!

I can tell you that sometimes the truth hurts, but when a lie is found to have been told it hurts a whole lot more. So, the truth may hurt, but a lie hurts much worse, and in so many more ways. The truth may hurt the persons feelings at the time and for a short time. Nobody wants to be told that they were wrong. They much prefer, at the time, to be told what they want to hear. They much prefer to hear that they were right, and that the whole world is wrong, but not them! It hurts their feelings to know that they did wrong. However, a lie, which would make them feel better in the short term, always hurts when they find out the lie was told. It harms them in many more ways. First, it keeps them from learning and improving their actions. You tell someone it was good for you, and later they find out it was not, and that you did not want to tell them because it might hurt their feelings, will make them wish they had known sooner to correct the situation. If you lie and say that what they did was right, and later they find out that behind their back, you are saying different, surely hurts them a whole lot more. If one lies to the person, they cannot and most likely will not change their actions. If you tell them the truth, yes, it may hurt for a short time, but that will go away, and maybe, just maybe, they will correct the situation. I hope this helps.

Dad, The truth hurts because whether its a relationship or friendship the two people would say things will never go wrong when it would. Then there is lies and deceit and a lack of communication promises made then broken, as a result angry feelings transpire yelling screaming then yelling out whats the matter huh does the truth.

Truth can be complex and in many levels. Their is your truth, my truth, and Gods truth.

The truth hurts because many times-but not always, what is the truth, by it's nature isn't pleasant. For instance say someone has cancer and it's the truth, they will make up coping mechanisms like oh I really don't have it, or oh my body will fight it. When you give people the truth if it's uncomfortable they will start to use defenses against it. HOWEVER I am one who wants to embrace the truth; not here to just throw stuff at you that's bull. Have no fear though, for there is an old saying "if your willing to accept the truth the truth will set you free". If you think about that saying, it's very true at least then you will know and you will be free. Peace