I love a girl who is currently dating someone else, but I feel she might love me. I don't know how to talk to her about this clearly. Is it wrong to tell her to leave her boyfriend?

There are a lot of details to the question: about you, about the girl, about the girl's boyfriend. What's missing is the explanation what exactly is stopping you from speaking with her about it. Think about it, and name it. (Hint: it's nothing).

You're too nice. I'm sure that this answer is going to be in my top Ever. You love her. She loves you. She's going to stay with the guy she doesn't love. So she's either lying to you about love, or lying about the guy. I had this situation a couple of times and whilst it wasn't love (I had a romantic idea that I'd only tell one girl I loved her in my life - been married for 10 years now) there was something there. It didn't happen. I was useful as a fall back option, a reserve date, as pressure on the boyfriend but I was never in the running. So you have a couple of choices. You either raise your game or stop playing. When you raise your game you can either do it the moral or immoral way. Morally these are the things you do: Get your body in shape Give your clothes a make over Think about what she likes (not what you think she should like) and reflect that Immorally Control your Facebook feed so that she only ever sees you with girls prettier than her. And she must see them Find a 'beard' who will pretend to be your girlfriend. Very pretty and articulate. Going out with someone better than you raises your value. Identify and create 'stories' that will make her attracted to you and make sure she hears them via third parties. (Your work with orphans, the local children's hospital and small furry animals) Find the matchmaker her parents use (if old fashioned) and bribe her to include your name The present boy friend may or may not last. Macho telling her to leave him will not work. You put yourself in the same class as men who attack women on buses if you do that. The best you will get is scorn and a slap. You make yourself look so good that when it ends you are the best choice. Not because you believe it (which is what you do being a naive optimist - a general reflection on people rather than you specifically ;)) but because she believes it. This almost certainly won't work but you will then be set up to get a really great girl to spend the rest of your life with. So you have a win win solution. Either you get her or you get someone better than her

This is never an easy situation. Professing your feelings could cause an awkward rift from which your relationship with her would never recover. I agree with Tessa; if she does have strong feelings for you, she will break up with her current boyfriend and pursue a relationship with you at some future time. In the meantime, try not to obsess about the situation too much (I know, easier said than done).  It's difficult, but try to keep yourself busy with friends, hobbies, work and/or school. Transfer your passion into something productive. Try and meet some new people. You never know, you might meet someone who sparks your interest and perhaps eventually becomes the object of your affection.

If the girl wants to be with you, then she will dump her boyfriend, if she stays with the boyfriend you should find someone else to date.  Don't be surprised if she is mad that you started dating someone else.  Girls like having options and right now you are her backup plan.   Now please, you are in college, act like semi-adults and quit playing love sick games like you are still in the seventh grade.

Here are a few rules you can adopt. They worked for me in college. Don't pursue girls that are dating other guys. You don't want to date someone that will cheat on their partner. You don't want to be "the other guy" with anyone you are in love with. You don't want to waste years with someone who is unavailable. I was in a similar situation when I was in college twice. The first time I became infatuated with the girl and she had a boyfriend of several years from back home. I wasted a semester hopelessly as more than a friend and less than a lover. It blew up eventually we both got hurt and didn't speak again for more than a year. Years later I was dating a different girl and she started dating one of my best friends which didn't bother me at all. The second time there was a woman I worked with who I was rather compatible with. She also had a boyfriend who lived out of town. Learning from my previous mistakes I went ahead and put her in the unavailable category and went to go find a single woman that wanted to date me. Soon enough I did. As a result I found a girlfriend who I didn't have to share and my workplace never became hostile! If she lives in another city she isn't someone you want to start a relationship with. Relationships require physical intimacy. If she lives in another city then that is gonna be kind of difficult. Get out there and rebound, force yourself to work through it if you have to. In a way getting rejected is kind of like a hangover, you don't really want to do anything afterwards but it gets much better once you get up and start moving. Go find some girls that you're attracted too and, talk to them, if they seem like someone you can have some fun with then ask them out. Don't avoid going out when you're single simply because you don't know any girls who fit you're ideal of perfection (hint: nobody is perfect, you look for that and you're bound to be disappointed). So just find some nice, normal and relatively interesting girl, take her out and see if you're compatible. You aren't supposed to be in love with someone on the first date anyways If you are infatuated/love someone who does not return those feelings then you are not in love. Stop contacting them you'll only prolong your own misery.

You are young, and it sounds like she's the only woman you've ever thought of. How do you really know this is even love? It sounds more like you simply can't let go of the idea of loving her than anything else, and that isn't healthy. Even if you really are in love with her it seems to be causing you more pain than anything, meanwhile she gets a friend who will pay attention to her and do things for her and a boyfriend to do those kind of things a boyfriend does. Like many have said, if she really loves you she would be with you. Just let her go and move on to someone who actually wants to be with you. To be frank, this type of infatuation is juvenile. Stop pining already!

By reading your questions all things will favors you. Only thing you will have to do is just increase her confidence level. You have to do following things. 1. Don't force her to do any things, allways support her decision. 2. Respect her as you respect your family.3. Try to spent time with her.4. When you think that her love grew more towards you. Then 5 . Let her go in peace place. Down the knee and hold her hand gently and say This magical words. " I don't fear to loose You but my Fear is, that if I loose You, Who will love You like ME" So, Will you be my My breath for my life. Thanks for reading.

This is a weird situation. So she is attached to him because she kissed him? That's very odd. And she feels he only wants a girlfriend to have one, and any one would do? But she is still attached but somehow wants to leave him? This drips inconsistancy. I think she is lacking the ability to tell you the truth and is telling patil truths. Maybe she likes him but doesn't like the way he treats her. Maybe she likes you as just a friend and is making up excuses. Maybe she just likes the attention of having someone interested. Either way, games are not ok. Tell her that if she is happy with him and decides she loves him then to stay. If she is unhappy and has been for a while and sees no future with him, to leave him. But you won't act as anything but a friend unless she decides she is unhappy and wants to leave. And does it. She can't have it both ways.

I was in this situation as the girl. The guy I was with was a real jerk. He made me promise to be with him and never leave him and a bunch of other crap to make me feel guilty. He hurt me emotionally and I thought I was stuck as he was my first boyfriend and kiss. Nine months I put up with it. Meanwhile I was talking to my best friend, another guy. He helped me through it and I fell in love with him, but felt guilty over my emotions. I felt as if I was betraying my asshole boyfriend. One day he was black out drunk and threatened to kill my family because he was angry that my dad would not allow me to date him. I snapped out of it and long story short after another very dramatic day, we finally declared our love to each other. We have been together for almost 11 months now, with only minor problems. Feel free to drop hints, but don't ever do anything with her. Stand by and be there for her, but be there in a way that she knows you are interested.