I have seen a girl on the bus she often takes my same bus and I really fancy her So how I can tell her that I like her or just start a friendship?

Imagine that this girl is the person holding the key to your job: being her friend . Are you qualified for that job? If yes, close Quora window and go get that job!! You will have to explain why you are the best qualified candidate because she does not know that you are interested in this position.

Have you noticed interest from her?  Does she smile at you?  Look at you when you get on the bus? (like look at you, look down, then look at you again) Play with her hair, or touch her throat when you are around?   These are all positive body language clues that she is interested.  So if possible, sit in the seat across the aisle. Or you could also use the seat in front of her, and turn around and speak to her.   Look her in the eye, and say Hi, my name is ......................  I see you on this bus everyday.  Can I join you?   Then, where do you go to school? What is your favorite class, etc.   Listen, enjoy, share things about yourself, enjoy some more! Good luck!

First, a question; do you have to wait on the bus, or is there a bench you can sit on or a wall you can lean against that will allow you to wait outside the bus until she arrives? If so, that would make it easier to say hello or start a conversation with her outside of the bus, which would be more comfortable for her, and possibly for you as well. If not, then your only option is to speak to her on the bus itself, which means you must do so in a manner which is non-threatening (in both a physical and cultural sense) as well as open ended. What I mean by non-threatening is that while you obviously don't want her to be afraid you'll physically harm her, you also must be careful not to broach any local, religious, or cultural mores that frankly I can't be aware of, as I've lived in the US my entire life and never visited India. So I can only offer suggestions, as follows. If the bus encounters delays because of a bad accident or something else unexpected one day, the next time you encounter her catch her eye and smile and say "I sure hope we don't run into another delay today, because it will interfere with my XXXX" with xxxx being your studies, your job, or whatever you were doing.  That is an open ended comment, because she can simply nod her head in agreement or say something like "I hope not either". In either case, you've broken the ice without making her feel obligated to reply or respond in any way. If she makes an effort to sit farther away from you afterwards, take the hint and give her the chance to feel safe. If however she sits nearby again the following days, you'll know that she was not threatened or bothered by your speaking to her, and you can gradually increase the level of communication. You can ask a question without asking if you're thoughtful and choose your words. To use the same example (not that I expect you'd use it in real life, but it serves the purpose here) the next time the trip is delayed, on the following day you can smile and say "I hope yesterday's delay didn't ruin your plans for the day?" Again, she can indicate that no, it didn't with a gesture or a shrug, or she can say 'No, it did not." In both examples, she can also answer in more detail, or ask you a question. For instance, she might reply "Yes, it will be a big problem if that happens today because I plan to "___". Or she might ask you a question about your plans that would be interfered with. That's the key to an open ended comment or question, it invites further comments or questions and allows a conversation to continue without trying too hard. But if you were to ask her "Did yesterday's delay interfere with your plans?" whether she answers 'Yes" or "No" the conversation is over. The other thing to keep in mind is to be careful not to be seen as asking or revealing anything too personal, which is a judgment very dependent on cultural differences. For instance, in Los Angeles or Las Vegas you could probably ask the woman waiting in line at the bank or the supermarket in front of you if her breasts were real or not and she'd just answer you without taking offense. But in the deep south of the US if you simply asked a woman where she bought her dress she might be offended by such a personal question. So I don't know what guidelines to suggest to you, but they should be obvious in your mind. Just be as careful about revealing too much about yourself as you are in asking anything too personal of her. If you attempt to start the conversation as described by talking about things you know you have in common related to the bus ride you share and always use open ended comments or questions which allow her to respond or not respond at the level she chooses, you will probably be able to strike up a real conversation over time. Just remember that if she is reluctant to engage in any conversation that you need to respect that and not be offended or hurt by it. Such avoidance could be the result of a previous bad or even traumatic experience or it could be her way of determining if you are respectful of her feelings and capable of the self control to behave appropriately. Good luck. (By the way, I don't pretend to be an expert at chatting up women as the British might put it, but I have years of experience in consultative selling which involved understanding not just manufacturing methods but the human relationships and corporate politics surrounding them, all of which had to be addressed in order to solve a 'simple' process problem. Which in essence meant that I had to get people to talk to me before anything else could happen - a skill which has proven to be as useful in raising kids or coaching sports as it is in talking to strangers.)

Does she read while on the bus or listen to music. What if anything does she read. Romance books, crime, sci-fi, drama or does she just sit quietly. If She's sitting twiddling her thumbs then she probably wouldn't mind striking up a conversation with someone. The idea is not to get overzealous and approach her like a deer in the forest and you are the hunter. Instead pretend she doesn't have anything you want but you are just curious to get some info. At least until you break the ice.

Simple, If you you want to go slow, then for the first few days try establishing eye contact. If she reciprocates, add a smile every time eye contact takes place. Do this for 2-3 days. If she reciprocates with a smile, go ahead and talk to her. Show interest in her and in her interests. Be confident. Mission accomplished. If you want to go fast, just go and talk to her. If she reciprocates, job well done, otherwise give her more time and let it sink into her and go with the slow process. I'm saying this because some women might need more time getting comfortable. And don't be afraid. She is a person. Girls are general people also.

I'm going to tweak my answer to this question: which is a paraphrase of this answer for you.  It seems similar. We need some more information first though. Is this a school bus or a city bus? Does she get on the bus before you? Is the bus generally full? Can you reasonably sit right by her, in an adjacent seat, not on the same seat, without arousing suspicion? Is she reading, texting, listening to music or doing some other activity that you would have to interrupt if you engage her in a conversation? This is different than approaching a girl in the library or at a coffee shop.  You have some time.  She is a captive audience, but you can't leave and come back, which is a common pickup artist technique.  (I despise pickup artists but some things just work.).  And if you press her, the creep factor jumps through the roof since she can't get away.  Plus there are the other people on the bus who know precisely what you are after so you have to be more brave about it, or somehow be more casual. One thing in common you have with the library advice is the chance to build rapport over time.  You see her on a regular basis.  But I will caution you.  I have learned this the hard way after I have hit it off with plenty of girls in dance class and I end up taking for granted that she would return the following week, then never see her again.  Get in contact as soon as possible.  Phone number or facebook friends ASAP.  But you have to do it right. In this situation you have two options.  The library approach and the coffee shop approach could both be useful but they have one thing in common: your intention is very clear.  You have a different option: (which is why you are asking the question) should you be casual and approach it like an aquantance at first, then friendship turning into romance? For that you'll have to look at her.  Different girls will respond to different approaches differently.  Have you seen other men hit on her or engage her in conversation?  If so then great!  Think back at her reaction.  If she hasn't been approached yet, you might decide to wait a week or two before you make your move to see how she reacts to other guys engaging her in conversation.  But two warnings: don't wait too long before you lose the chance, and don't be too creepy. Okay once you decide the approach to take, here's my advice. I'm going to assume that you get on the bus after her or that you consistently find yourself positioned in such a way as to engage her in conversation.  You need to sit near her, period.  Adjacent seat is best, but not too obvious. If she is reading or listening to music, do it quickly.  Assume she's too busy to talk right now so forget the "comment on her reading material" suggestions.  That's too obvious and it implies you want to engage her in conversation.  She'll see right through it.  If you go that route, and she doesn't want to be disturbed, you are essentially ignoring what is important to her: her time and concentration.  You'll be acting rude.  You'll be communicating to her that your selfish superficial desires are more important than her needs.  She'll be thinking, rightfully so, "can't you see I'm busy?" and you'll never ever get that date. Get her attention instead, then immediately jump to a superficial compliment, as if taken by surprise.  I can not stress enough the importance of the compliment being superficial*.  "Excuse me.  I dropped my pen, could you...  Oh wow!  You have the prettiest eyes."  She is guaranteed to smile.  She'll look under her seat and give you your pen, then return to her reading.  Let her.  Get busy doing something.  Then, in a minute or so, get her attention again and say something like, "I'm sorry.  I know you're busy but I just can not help myself.  I've seen you on this bus before and I can't believe I've never noticed how striking you are.  I'll regret it all day long if I don't try to get your number."  Be direct.  Be courageous.  She'll be more open to it if you're confident.** Women aren't always too closed minded to recognize that love can happen in the blink of an eye and that when they meet the man of their dreams, they are not necessarily going to be ready.  They could be in sweats, with no makeup and raggedy hair.  Still, love happens.  They know that they can meet that man at any moment.  You can't plan spontaneity.  If she's too wrapped up in her own little world to see that the most important things in life usually happen when they are least prepared, thank your lucky stars she blew you off.  She's not worth it.  She is clearly more concerned with planning her life around the unimportant things like success and career than enjoying the important things in life like love and family.  Thank God that you dodged the bullet. I'm too cowardly to do this myself, but I see the quick-number-pickup all the time with my good buddy who time and again gets girls' numbers in the grocery store, at the convenience store, the gas station, the laundromat, the mall, the movie theater, and at coffee shops.  Everywhere.  You can do it too. The nice thing about the bus, and I said this about the library too, is that you have more chances.  If she blows you off, or has a boyfriend, you get more chances to ask for a date.  Keep it up.  Don't give up.  Build rapport.   One thing that's potentially good about the bus (and coffee shop) as compared to the library is she might actually be open to a conversation.  So if she reacts positively to your initial compliment or the followup request for her number, test the waters and see if she really is busy.  Who knows.  You might have your first date right there. Now this is the direct approach.  Honestly I feel that this is less risky than the casual approach.  Sure it's more scary and potentially more embarrassing since you're in close proximity with so many other strangers, who will hear your conversation.  But the casual approach is much more likely to just fizzle.  And it's much more difficult to engage her if she's reading and listening to her iPod.  But this is where you will go back to your experience watching her get hit on by other guys.  If she was amiable to them, she will likely be just as amiable to you.  It really depends on her.  But don't push it.  Another risk is that once you go down the casual road, it's very hard to do the direct approach.  You really only have the direct approach option at the beginning, or possibly later on after you become good friends and you take her to lunch and openly express your love for her.  Wow.  Now THAT is scary. If you do want to go with the casual approach method, then let's go back to the compliment.  This will only work if she is open to casual conversation.  If she is listening to her iPod, you can't go this route.  If she is reading, then it's possible.  She might just be reading to keep from being bored.  So compliment her on her jewelry, her hair, her shoes, something not superficial that she had a hand in doing.  She picked out the jewelry or the shoes.  You're not complimenting her genes.  You're complimenting her taste.  That opens her mind up to more.  Now ask where she got it.  Or what does it mean?  Does it have some significance?  Gauge her reaction to this and move on from there.  If she bought it at a local store, branch off and talk about that store.  Or that neighborhood or shopping center.  If she got if from a trip, GREAT!  That would be a jackpot because there's a goldmine of conversation there.  If her grandmother gave it to her, then that is good too.  Use it as a springboard to other conversation.  You do need to gauge her because she might really be needing to study for her test.  But if she is amiable to a conversation she'll make it clear. Honestly though, this approach seems quite risky in so many ways.  You don't know if she's amiable to a conversation, and if she's not, then you might have just lost the chance to ever get her number since you can't really do the. "wow your eyes are spectacular" line.  The only chance afterwards is to try to build rapport over time.  And you would be relying a lot on luck, who has never really been that friendly towards me. I think the direct approach is probably best here. One more option that must be talked about is the "getting off at her stop" option.  This really depends on where she gets off.  If she gets off in a neighborhood, don't do it.  You'll end up in jail.  If she gets off at a busy part of the city and you just happen*** to be going to the same restaurant to eat lunch, "hey! I saw you on the bus.  Are you eating alone?  Care for some friendly company?"  Be courageous.  Or use the coffee shop technique.  Or maybe she's going to the library, in which case, use the library technique. LOL Good luck and report back. *Deeper compliments like "I like that necklace" are openings for conversation.  Completely inappropriate if she's busy.  The pretty necklace is also potentially too casual and platonic right now.  She won't know that you're interested.  What you want is a quick and fast make-her-feel-good-about-herself pick-me-up and a quick indicator of your romantic interest.  The superficial pretty eyes, pretty smile, beautiful hair, you are gorgeous compliments are your currency right now. **The return is extremely effective.  It says to her that you've been thinking about her.  It makes her feel special.  It's an indicator that you are interested in more than friendship.  And it makes it seem as if you're a thinker, yet decisive, and that you take action.  Very masculine.  Very effective.  Do it when you ask a girl for her number.  Do it when you go on a date and go for the first kiss: hug her goodnight, walk away about 20 feet, then turn around, walk back up to her and just take that kiss.  She will swoon.  Promise. ***Yep, it's creepy to follow a girl.  But the only difference between stalking a girl and being romantic is the outcome, and whether or not she reciprocates.  I promise you that the man you marry will have done just a little bit of stalking.   If he waits by the elevator hoping to accidentally bump into you, that's stalking.  You'll have nice stories to tell later on if you end up together.

How about a "Hi!" to start with. And to follow it up you can talk about how weird it is that you both have been traveling in the same bus for a long time and do not even know each other. If she is friendly enough, it would work great. Else I would say not worth the effort you would be putting into it. There are plenty of women out there man, a lot of them more awesome than this one. Just ponder upon the effort you would like to put in for the reward.

I always try to talk about something obvious. The weather or the traffic or if there's alot of people on the bus. Give it one or two stabs, if she continues the convo and you have fun talking about nothing. Ask her out. If she gives you 1 word answers I'd consider shutting it down. Doesn't mean she's not interested could be a long day, or all kinds of things. You see her again bring up something else that's obvious. Keep the convo light and smile often!

Start with a smile and get into a conversation. In Washington, DC, I usually start with "How are you doing?" and 90% I would get a respond and a smile back. I hope that will help. Very important to keep a good smile and keep your conversation interesting.