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I want to find a friend who moved address..... how can i do it.

Private Investigators: How do I find someone if all I have is an old address from 10 years ago and the first name?

  • Here is the story: Northern California. I met a girl who lived at the same apartment complex as I did. We were both young, (17 & 18 ) and irresponsible. I was shy at the time so we only talked very briefly before I found out she was moving to another state (Colorado I think). I invited her to a party one night and we got along very well. There was mutual attraction. We ended up having protected sex that night, and at the end I realize the condom broke. I was freaking out at the time, but she said I shouldn't worry. We talked again the next day, and we were both fine. She told me she was moving the next day and that she will try to send me a letter. I still remember her eyes before we said good bye. The next day she is gone before I see her again. Her Mom didn't move with her so she was still living at the same apartment. Two weeks later I see her Mom moving out unexpectedly so I ask a neighbor, who was good friends with the Mom, what was going on. I was told her Mom is moving with her daughter because she was pregnant. I froze. I was young, and afraid. I never got to talk to the mom before she moved, but I tried to get as much information as possible from the neighbor friend. She couldn't provide me with an address or phone number, so I didn't know how to reach them. I ended up moving to a different apartment months later. I never got a letter. I tried calling the post office, went to her old high school, called the local authorities and nobody could provide me with information. All I know is her first name, I was able to get a last name from yellow pages but not sure if that is the right one. The reason I want to find her is because I feel very guilty, and I want to know if I have a child. I would like to know if the child that she had is mine. I would like to know if she is ok and if she needs support of any kind. It's been more than 10 years and I already have my life with someone else. I've been married for 4 years and my wife doesn't know about this. I'm sure she has her own life too, so I do not intent on disrupting her current life. I just want to know if I have a child, and provide full support, if needed, and if its mine. Is there a way that I can find the girl that I lost touch with?

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    As Anonymous stated correctly, if she knew that she was pregnant two weeks after you sex for a single time (according to you), you are unlikely to be the father.And it is doubtful that anybody would honestly move because their daughter was pregnant,especially within the last 20-25 years. Unmarried teenaged pregnancy is upsetting and sad, but it is hardly carries the stigma in mainstream society that it did in times past. You can also be certain that you are unlikely to be the father as the mother would have been able to find out who the grandchild's father was by now and the state in which she lives would have found YOU seeking the child support that you owe,Since this hasn't occurred, either the child was never born (for a host of reasons) or the child is not yours. Honestly this question sounds like "How do I find somebody from a one night stand?" The answer to that is you usually don't unless they want you to and this doesn't sound like it is the case.If the girl thought that you were the child's father and there was any kind of "connection" on her part she would have contacted or tried to in the past few years. If you are truly "concerned" then I would suggest that you contact the Department of Child and Family Services of all 50 states and see if they'll let you know if they are looking for you for back child support. The calls should take 2-3 days at most and after you have contacted all of the states and none of them have any record of your name being on their "deadbeat dad" rolls, I would advise you to just drop it. As far as telling your wife: It's likely that there is nothing to tell, so I would simply avoid saying anything unless and until you have something to say.

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If the girl (and her mother, AND the neighbour) already knew she was pregnant just two weeks after you slept with her, it is highly unlikely that the child of that pregnancy would be yours. Most home pregnancy tests just aren't sensitive enough to detect the pregnancy hormone that early on. And presumably this girl found out and told her mother the news a while before the day she was moving out. Relax, move on, and don't go stirring something up which is likely to cause grief in your current relationship.

Anonymous

This sounds like the kind of job a PI could solve in about 30 minutes.  They pay for all kinds of software to do these sorts of specific searches.  Go get a free consult, and find out.   If I were you, I would be discussing this with the wife.  If that child is yours, do you honestly believe you can go without seeing it?  Your wife needs to be on board. She deserves to know the truth.   Also, even if she was pregnant, that doesn't mean it was yours.  She also could have miscarried.  She may not want her life upset now if she is in a stable situation.  There are a lot of variables here.  If there is a child, you need to be getting a DNA test to know for sure it is your's (unless that child is your clone - then you could probably forego this)   Some counselling with someone with experience in this area would also be helpful.  You are carrying 10 yrs of guilt, guilt that could be totally unjustified.  Plus, this has the possibility to explode your current life, esp as you haven't discussed this previously with your wife.   Good luck.

Gwen Sawchuk

Start with google, put her name in parenthesis and see what turns up. You are likely to find several sites with partial address information on them. Use that partial information to search http://WhitePages.com or http://411.com and find out current address and phone information.

Kristy Robinson

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