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What's the best way to move across the country?

Least stressful, most cost-effective way to move cross country?

  • I currently live in in Pennsylvania and I just got a job in California. My new office wants me to start in the next couple weeks -- and I do too -- but I am really nervous/stressed out about finding an apartment and moving cross country. I don't actually need any advice on moving my stuff or any of that. It's the logistics of finding a place to live while I am across the country. My original plan was to fly there with all my clothes/toiletries about a week and a half before my start date, and stay in a hotel or something while I look for an apartment and then move into my new apartment. I am nervous about finding a place to move into right away, and I am worried I could end up needing to stay somewhere for weeks and not be settled even as I start my new job. I also don't want to ask my office for a ton of money to cover temporary housing, but by just going out there, I run the risk that it will be a long-term stay and get pricey. In negotiating it with them, they mentioned a hostile where I'd share with other people (umm... no, I'm a professional and a manager, I am not doing that) and they seemed to think it was expensive at $800 for two weeks. This is a non-profit, so I get it, but still. The other option would be to fly there ASAP, spend a few days looking at places and sign a lease, and then come home and return later with all my stuff when the lease starts, knowing I have somewhere to go. That seems like it could delay the move a bit and add a lot of flying, which I am not a fan of (nervous flyer). It also seems to be more expensive up front, whereas the first option has only the risk of becoming expensive. What is the best way to do this? I feel like I need to physically see an apartment before I would be comfortable signing a lease. But I don't want to be stuck there without a place to call home. I feel overwhelmed and like my new employer is kind of leaving me to sort this all out of my own. I wonder if I should push back my start date to Feb 1 because I have no clue how to make this happen. What do you think? For the record, I've done moves all kinds of ways. For one job I secured an apartment first and came back (which turned out well, but finding an apartment was easy). For another I looked for one while I was there (and finding an apartment was hard and I was unhappy with the place I chose). For one I subletted off craigslist sight unseen (and I loved it because it was nice and furnished). But I've never moved this far away. Key details: -I do not need to move any big stuff (beds, large appliances, etc.) -My office will reimburse up to $2500 for relocation, including flying there for the move and shipping stuff to myself, which is how I plan to use that $2500 -My office won't reimburse or provide housing when I first get there, but will offer me a "bonus" of cash to cover it -Their relocation stipend doesn't cover apartment search activities, like flying there and back or a hotel to apartment hunt, but I could ask since they offered to compromise on the "bonus" check for housing -I won't have a car in California, unless I rent it. I will be working downtown, but it's a small city and I think I will eventually need a car. For furnishing my apartment, I will definitely need to rent a car until I can buy one. -Extended Stay-type places or long-term hotel places are not close enough to my office without a car. A car rental would be necessary and it would probably negate the savings of doing that. -I am supposed to start in about 2 and a half weeks but still negotiating final terms.

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    Honestly, I don't want to pour my energy into finding a non-sketchy sublet when I should actually be trying to find places to live in permanently. It's another layer of stress and another opportunity for something to go wrong. The only option I'd consider is a hotel or something designed for this, but it just seems expensive and I'll be stuck living there without any clue of when I will have my own place to settle into. Bottom line about moving cross country: you have two choices. You can do it the risk free way, or you can do it the cheap way. You can't have both. If you want to be 100% sure that you've selected a completely perfect short term option, stay in a hotel. I would personally opt to rent a car and stay in an extended stay type of place, because chances are you will be glad you had access to a car outside of just needing it to commute. If you want to save a lot of money, do AirBnB or sublet and risk that something could go wrong.

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I would ask the new company if there were anybody, maybe someone on the team you're going to work with, who you could talk to about neighborhoods and whatnot, to help you focus the pounding-the-pavement part.

colin_l

As someone who has made a few major long-distance moves, I totally understand what you're saying about wanting to get settled into something so you can focus on your job. But my experience has been that it's worth it to take the time to sublet something (or spend the money on a hotel) and then look for another apartment. Postponing your start date also sounds like a good idea.

three_red_balloons

Is there an AirBnB close enough to work that you could stay there for a few weeks? Cheaper than a hotel but less sketchy than a sublet. If they're being really tight on money maybe they'd be ok giving you an extra couple of days off to do new apartment stuff so that you can start sooner?

matildatakesovertheworld

I live in Sacramento! Memail me if you'd like! I'd be happy to provide info re: neighborhoods, etc. To answer your question, I think your idea of coming here early to sign a lease is the best option. It's an added layer of stress if you need to search for a place to live while starting a new job. Craigslist is the best way to get an apartment here, although they can go quickly.

brynna

Do remember that postponing your start date will also result in a loss of income. I think this is going to cost more money than you'd like, so you may as well start working as soon as possible. Rent a long term stay and a car, and hunt like crazy for a place to rent.

kjs4

As far as temporary cars go, Sacramento has http://www.zipcar.com/sacramento/find-cars. Only really useful if you work or live downtown, but that's where I personally would try to move.

oneirodynia

Also, here are some more general "how to move across the country to California without a car" pointers: - Have your things shipped to your office if at all possible. I shipped things the cheapest and slowest possible USPS service. It was unbelievably affordable -- I think I spent maybe $200 sending 10-15 boxes of books, media, and miscellaneous personal/household stuff. Everything arrived in perfect condition. - For things you need ASAP when you get there, just pay the airline fee for excess baggage. I flew with two checked bags, a carryon, and a "personal item". Best $50 I ever spent. - Having a car for the first week or so will be a huge help, even if you end up renting a place in walkable area and going car-free in the long term. When I moved to LA, I spent my first few days in Hollywood (totally walkable/close to transit), then found an apartment in Boyle Heights (convenient to a ton of bus routes and the metro). I could have navigated everything without a car just fine. But it was just so EASY to have access to a car. It made settling in much smoother, because I could hop in the car and find anything I needed rather than having to decipher bus schedules and bargain with the gods of "is there a Target close to public transit". Absolutely worth the $100 or so I spent on the rental.

Sara C.

Can you fly and arrange to have your important stuff shipped once you've found a place? Box it all up so it's ready to go and have a friend or family member send it to you. Amtrak and greyhound ship them significantly cheaper than USPS.

zug

I don't want to live in a place with other people at all, especially while I am growing through moving and a new job and all that. That just will not work. The non-shared AirBnBs are as expensive as a hotel room. Thanks for the suggestion though. I just really don't want to get stuck living in a crappy limbo situation while I am starting my new job and trying to start off strong in my new role. I want to be able to focus on my new job completely. I think maybe this is being rushed more quickly than it should be. I verbally agreed to come this month but I think I need to tell them it won't work and we need to do a February start date. Would that be super awful if I told them I need an extra week or two?

peachpie

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