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Boyfriend's dad calls me his ex girlfriend's name. What to do?

  • My boyfriend's dad calls me Laura, my boyfriend's ex girlfriend's name (well, actually he dated two girls named Laura). The first time it happened I ignored it and I don't think he even realized he did it (my boyfriend hit him and he said "what?"). The second time we were in a car together and he called me Laura again. This time it was obvious that I heard it. He quickly called me the right name, but it was so awkward. He later apologized and said he wanted no hard feelings. Of course, I said it wasn't a problem, but really I was thinking, "this is so awkward, please stop talking about it." I would have rather him not apologize and just ignore it like I was trying to. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months and he dated a girl with the name "Laura" for a combined total (between the two girls) for 5 years, so I can sort of understand that he has that name stuck in his head. I see him parents at least once every couple weeks for dinner, so it's not like they never see me or don't really know me. My boyfriend said that his dad call's his brother's wife by the wrong name too. I don't know if he call's her the name of an ex or what, so obviously he has some difficulty with names. The first Laura my boyfriend dated he was with for quite some time and his family loved her. I think they all wanted him to marry her, but he wasn't ready, so they broke up. What do I do if this keeps happening? It's so awkward (I know I keep saying that, but there is no other word to describe how it makes me feel). Is his dad still stuck in the past and wants him to be with his ex girlfriend? I just need some advice on how to handle this...

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    Inject humor. Say, I'm Not Lisa

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I know it bothers you but in my opinion, the best thing to do is to do nothing, especially since you seem as though you'd prefer he ignore the issue once he's made the mistake. However, if he keeps noticing his error and then apologizing, you might try saying something like this: "Mr. Smith, I know you don't mean to call me by the wrong name but it's embarrassing for both of us if & when it happens. So why don't you just ignore your slip of the tongue and keep going and I'll agree to do the same?"

HereComesTrouble

If it keeps happening, get those name tags that say "Hello my name is..." and walk in to your bf's house with your name scribbled in bright red marker. After awhile he will feel like a jerk for calling you the wrong name (its not so subtle lol). You walk in with one of those on you it will speak volumes. You can also start calling him a different name every time you see him. If your used to calling him Mr Whatever...start referring to him as Sam...or Jack or Neil....Always use a different name other than his own. If he starts on you about his name then you can say "now you know how I feel".....

alfugazi

Sincde you know his voice, tell him to heel and stay put!

AIAR

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