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How to quit my job? What is an excuse you gave your employer?

If you return a piece of jewelry an employer gave you because you quit, is it okay to ask for it back?

  • Employer/former mentor gave me a necklace that I loved. But a few weeks after she gave me the necklace I quit because of the stress at the job. she was very mean to me so I gave her the necklace back on my birthday. I asked her for the necklace back and she refuses to give it back to me even though i have known her since i was a child. I know it was stupid to give it back but because we knew each other so long is she wrong for not giving it back? Was giving it back the right thing to do?

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    The employer who had cancer? Who might really appreciate an employee/friend giving her some extra understanding and the benefit of the doubt when she's not acting up to par? Who obviously cares if she gave said friend that necklace? Who would likely be very hurt when it was returned? Under the circumstances, I think giving back the necklace really sucked. And asking for it back, even worse. Very insensitive and immature. There are times in life when we're given the opportunity to be the bigger person. This was one of those times.

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I probably wanted the necklace back because I thought of it maybe as good luck? The day after I gave her the necklace back some horrible things happened to my little nephew Tim and some horrible things happened to me and my family....so I guess maybe thinking about it later I thought it might of been a type of amulet or good luck charm. Now i see it's silly to think that way.

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And she never confirmed she got it because I left it with secretary downstairs nancy

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No, but it was goofy to give it back in the first place. Live and learn.

Thriftymaid

As I understand the rules, the return of a gift between girls/women means that everything is finished. It is symbolism that the relationship has ended. So, your former boss is correct. It is over and you have no more claim to the necklace than you do her car. But it is more than that. What the hell are you doing talking to your former boss? The relationship has ended. You can't do what you did and then say you changed your mind. Your former boss has not changed her mind, and she won't. Go away and stay away.

Highbeambright

Whether it was right or not you gave it back to her and it was tacky to go ask for it again.

Wellduh

A gift is a gift and is meant to be given and not returned, in my opinion. So she should have let you keep it when you tried to return it or just returned it when you asked for it back. As such, some people are petty when they are angry (I can be that way...lol). Whether it's right or wrong is not for anyone to say but yourself. I think it's wrong, since I wouldn't do it myself. But what does it matter, when she's not going to give you the necklace?

~*The Duchashka Araya*~

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