How Many Sleeps Christmas?

He intro's me to his whole family and invites me over for Christmas, but if we share a bed, he sleeps like there's a yardstick between us?

• I'm dating a guy who is pretty nice and kind of fun to hangout with, but I feel like we're in middle school (when we're actually mid-20s) because while he wants to introduce me to his entire family and invite me over for Christmas after only a couple of months, we have almost no physical intimacy. We were supposed to be a "casual" couple just running around for fun (that was what we agreed on), and now it's all backwards. He always has an excuse for why there's no romance. There are other things wrong but this makes me feel really awkward because I don't get it... Like, one minute he's all "I don't want anything committed or serious," and then the next minute he's like "hey, come over for this religious holiday and meet my entire extended family!" (Huh?) ... Ideas? * He's not secretly homosexual (I already felt that out.) ** He's not shy or a prude (his sexual history makes that verrry clear.)

• Answer:

  You said you were a casual couple and agreed on it. How can there be romance in a casual relationship :) ?? Hanging out and introducing you to his family doesn't mean there should be intimacy involved. Casual couple "running around for fun" doesn't necessarily mean physical intimacy. It could also mean just hanging out and enjoying each other's company. That's what happened w. me and my S/O for a long time before we got intimate. We used to get stoned together after factory hours (she was / is my secretary), we used to eat meals together, we used to drive long distance together, but I never got intimate w. her till much MUCH later. If it helps, I have had a quite a few physical contact w. girls in University within days if not hours, of knowing that person. But I gauged these girls much differently than I gauged my secretary. I wouldn't show any long term interest in those girls. It mostly happened in parties, or in occasions where it would be like "yo yo, come w. me to Kullu Manali / Goa etc., we will have a great time!" I didn't have an opinion on them either, and no way in hell would I even contemplate making them a part of my family lmao. Or contemplate visiting their families for that matter, NO WAY IN 9 HELLS. But if a man invites u to meet his family, or if he wants to meet u r family, it means he looks at u differently than how he looked upon his other girls. He is not having this "let's have fun and bail when it it becomes inconvenient" outlook towards you. Maybe he just loves your company and feels it is fulfilling enough for him. I didn't push for physical intimacy w. my secretary because I loved her company, and that was very fulfilling for me. Of course , the physical intimacy made it better, but even w.o it, I felt comfortable with her. And by the way, I didn't push or suggest we get intimate or "elevate" our interactions, she did. And it came after a LONG time. If you want physical intimacy, why not suggest it to him?