Difficult Decision regarding newish job and another job offer

• I'm not sure what to do - leave a job I've only been in for 10 months and move after a job offer - or stay in my present job and try to see if I can make it work? I started a new job 10 months ago. I thought it was going to be the perfect job for me after working previously in a company for 10 years. It’s absolutely none stop and I’m working extra hours each day and sometimes at the weekend just to keep up. This is unpaid as it's a salaried position. I’ve felt completely overwhelmed at times – but realistically have learned a lot. It’s an admin job and I work for 9 people. I’ve been told how well I’ve been doing and that I’m an ‘exceptional’ colleague etc etc. Unfortunately because I'm so responsible I keep getting more and more - my boss is aware I'm working longer hours and just says that 'it's appreciated' - but doesn't offer to get me anymore help and still emails me with new projects! We have had meetings and I have said how busy it is and that sometimes I just feel like walking out as there's too much to do for one person. The job was filled previously by 1 woman that lasted 4 months and another who lasted 6 – both left of their own accord and without giving notice (I didn’t realize this when I took the job). I applied for another job – and have been offered the position. So – how come I feel torn? Pros for the new job offer 7 days more annual leave (this is a real bonus for me) Less hours Better pension and benefits Flexi hours Cons for the new job Less money (about 2K a year less) Lower grade No opportunities for advancement (I don't know if this is a con or a pro at the moment!) Have to start from scratch training again in another company. I’m so confused now I’ve been offered it. I don’t know if I should cut my losses with the company I’m at at present, or stick it out and see if things improve. I’m worried that I’m being lazy and just can’t cut it in a fast paced environment. I know I need to sort this out myself but can’t understand why I feel so paralyzed by making this decision – I’m seriously panicked by it – by telling my boss and feeling I’ve let the company down, by telling my present co-workers – who are a lovely bunch and have been relying on me more and more to get their admin done and who completely trust me to do their work for them. Most of all I’m worried that if I make this move after such a short time then hate the new job – I’m gonna end up being a job hopper. Has anyone else been in a similar situation – how did you cope?

• Answer:

  I'm going to bet you a donut that 'it's 2k less per year' means they offered 2k less per year. Come back to the new job asking for 3k more than they initially offered, plus one other thing that you want - maybe working from home one day a month, or them Totally Overhauling your work space (spin it as ergonomic engineering, but seriously, new chairs, phone headset, filing system you love, replace the shitty carpet if possible, change the height of the desk/counter) or, you know, the big job thing you've always wanted. Maybe they'll pay for some continuing education if you ask. They will negotiate. But as a woman, you have been trained (effectively, if this question is any indicator) to take what's handed to you and not make any noise. Look into the research on what happens when men get job offers - the hit is they usually negotiate for more. And employers expect that.