Scammy call or wife with gall?

I recently called a friend, spoke to him for a while, hung up and then remembered something I needed to tell him and called him back. Spoke briefly, hung up. A few minutes later I got a call from a number I didn't recognize and a very angry man left a very angry message saying that my number had just called his wife's phone twice during a family event, that there had been other calls from my number, but when they answered the calls no one was ever there. And to stop calling. Damnit. At first I thought it was a fluke, but then I started remembering my friend raving about Google Voice and how good it was at finding him no matter what number he was at. So, I called him back and told him about the angry man and asked him if it was possible this angry man's wife's number was somehow attached to my friend's Google Voice account. I don't know the details, but yes, my friend had that particular number listed as a possible forwarding number for his own account (maybe it was a typo on my friend's part?). So, I have no idea if this will apply to your situation or not, but wacky phone things can happen for legitimate, non-scammy reasons, too.

I'm confused as to how the bank knows your card has been compromised, even though it hasn't been used. Did they explain this to you? Also, did they initiate contact with you in a legitimate way? Make sure this isn't a phishing scam.

Could it be possible that there's an area code issue going on (and the debit card is just a red herring)? Your profile says you're in Philadelphia, which probably has more than one local area code. Here in Chicago, I could easily see how someone, in a stressed out state, could read a number coming from 773-555-5555 and have their brain auto-fill with the more common 312-555-5555. Even more possibilities if you guys live in different cities. I don't know how someone could spoof a phone number, though I assume it can be done. Hopefully someone more tech-savvy can weigh in on that front.

I think the bank thing sounds pretty legit, particularly if you called the number on your bank's website. They probably received a list of compromised debit card numbers from some leak, and yours was on the list. They make you change your card even though nobody used it yet - that happened to me as well. Likely, it's just coincidence that both weird events happened at the same time. For what it's worth, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caller_ID_spoofing. Having your number showing up as the outgoing number on the phone seems like it would be harder, although I'm sure that there are phones that can do in-phone call forwarding. Having a cheating tech-savvy husband spoofing the phone number to his paramour doesn't sound all that far-fetched.

This isn't entirely on point, but I recently moved and in the move, got a new landline number. I'd had the number for about 3 days and I had never, ever used it, when I got a call from some guy telling me that my number had shown up in his missed calls, so he was calling me back. I told him I hadn't called him, and he hung up. Then called back five minutes later, telling me my number had just showed up in his missed calls again in the last couple of minutes, and insisting that I had called him. There is literally no way this could have been a mistake or me forgetting I'd called him -- I'd only had the number for a few days and I had never once used the the phone in my new place to make an outgoing call. Not once. Not to order pizza, not to check if the line worked, nothing. So it is possible for call display to be wrong. I'm not sure how it works, but I know from experience that it can happen.

At my old job we would get at least one call a week from some poor older person who was very annoyed that "we called them all the time" and our number was on their caller ID, etc. etc. etc. This was a big university and we couldn't even get our tech guys to stop it. It was extremely frustrating to have to explain this problem to all the people who called us, but we couldn't change our number. You may want to consider requesting a number change, if you get many more calls like this.

"She said he was her husband and she had his phone records and my phone number was all over them during February and March." Weird. I wonder what kind of records those might be. Billing records don't rely on caller ID.

Apparently, I'm part of the whole Michael's thing, so that breaks the tie I imagined between these two weird contacts. And I'm not sure how exactly the woman found my number in her husband's call log, but after reading your answers, it sure seems a lot more possible. Anyway, thanks again for your help!

Is it possible that my phone number showed up on this husband's phone records even though I hadn't been calling him and he hadn't been calling me? It's incredibly easy to fake caller id, so yes. Is there a chance that this is a scam for my debit card information? I kind of doubt it, but anything is possible. Did you give her a bunch of personal information?