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Where can one vacation alone and still have fun?

Instead of going on my honeymoon, namely because I am recently and unfortunately single, I would like to take the time to treat myself to a vacation.

  • Instead of going on my honeymoon, namely because I am recently and unfortunately single, I would like to take the time to treat myself to a vacation. I don't know that there's no hope for my prior relationship, but given the circumstances, I believe it's best for me to move forward with my life. Unfortunately, that is difficult to do whilst I share an address, bills, and other such sundries with her. Since I had already requested the time off and budgeted for a trip, I can't think of a better way to get back on my feet socially than to be on vacation. There's just one problem: where do I go? I am looking for a vacation that keeps my age, 34, and my newly single status in mind. I am not looking to find a date, not even for a vacation romance. That said, I would like to not be reminded of marriage, children, or family. I want to have fun, but what I consider fun may not be on par with others my age. I don't drink, but I am smoking like a chimney while I go through this. I don't go out to bars for fun. I don't enjoy dance clubs or even dancing. I would enjoy a philanthropic vacation, volunteer work, or even an educational vacation, but know little about such things as I have literally never taken a vacation in my adult life. What would you suggest for a man in my shoes? (Not going on vacation is a perfectly useful response.) And yes, mea culpa. For those who saw this coming in my previous questions with regard to my relationship, your points were never any clearer than they are now.

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    How about something kind of out in left field like to spend a week or two in a monastery. A lot of monasteries will let people (secular or not) stay for periods of time. You often live very simply, doing chores, being silent, spending a lot of time alone. If this idea doesn't deeply depress you, it might be a good opportunity to spend some time being your own person. http://christdesert.org/The_Porter/Visiting_the_Monastery/Monastery_Guesthouse/index.html

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http://www.ecovolunteer.org/ and http://www.roadscholar.org/home/default.asp seem to have interesting, educational travel programs that might be perfect for you.

logic vs love

I was in a somewhat similar situation and I found that the experience of traveling has dulled/distanced the emotional component a bit. I basically showed up in Europe and backpacked around for 3 weeks. The fact that I had no plans (besides a ticket booked home), no itinerary, no travel companion and no obligations was very liberating. New experiences pushed the unfortunate reason for me being there out of the way. I actually looked forward to coming home. I think you should deal with things after you get back. You'll relax a bit and have a new perspective (maybe). Good luck.

aeighty

I've always thought http://www.earthwatch.org/ trips sounded interesting. Maybe somthing in their catalog will strike you. Or, an http://www.outwardboundwilderness.org/ course seems like it could be a good experience for you at this time.

BoscosMom

We're heading off on a http://www.adventurebargains.com/tripdetail.cfm?tripID=1235 in Baja California next month. We've had a stressful work year thus far and this will really get us away from all that - good weather, exercise, outdoors all day, spending time with other couples/groups, no computers or telephones (or kids!) anywhere near us. Having done trips like this one in the past, I can suggest something similar will really blow the cobwebs away.

jamesonandwater

Seconding that--don't go anywhere until she's out and you've changed the locks.

brujita

Word of warning. Given that she has the run of the place, and a bunch of things in your joint names, do you trust her with all that while you're away for two weeks? Because from what I've learned about your ex from previous posts, I sure as hell wouldn't. You might come back and find the ex gone, a thousand dollar phone bill and grandmama's silverware missing.

i_am_joe's_spleen

I have to recommend combining two of the suggestions above. I did Habitat for Humanity in Costa Rica and it was awesome. Very cool, got to see the sites, do some great work, meet some fun people, low pressure.

jeanmari

Don't do the mad expensive international trip. You'll need the cash to set up your own pad upon your return. I'd suggest that you pick a big city on the opposite side of the country, pull out $800 in cash, hop in the car, and drive toward it. Stay the fuck off the interstate, as you'll see nothing there but the ubiquitous midwestern road-town (I grew out there, I know). Doing 55 on the state highway system, you can get as far as the Rockies in a week from Boston. Or, up into Canada.

Netzapper

Vegas. Without a doubt.

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