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Can you actually be too short to be a high school teacher?

  • I want to be a high school French teacher, but at twenty years old I still have the height, weight, and voice of a twelve-year-old. I'm afraid these physical attributes will make it nearly impossible for me to be hired and taken seriously as a high school teacher. Is this a legitimate concern that should cause me to rethink my goals? To start with, here's why I would love to be a high school French teacher: the French language and teaching are two of my greatest passions. The only thing I love more than language learning myself is teaching languages to others. Despite my severe social anxiety, I've enjoyed practicing English conversation with international students as much as I've enjoyed helping my peers practice reading, writing, and speaking in English and French classes. I originally thought I wanted to go into research/academia after college, but now I'm having doubts. Everything I've read online suggests that the job market is terrible for Ph.D. students, and I would rather avoid the job insecurity, the mental stress, the endless hours, and the barely living-wage pay of the graduate student lifestyle. Now, high-school teaching is also not the most highly-paid profession, but isn't it true that it's easier to find a high-school job than a university job and the salary will be somewhat higher (from the start, even though the Ph.D's might be earning more in ten years)? Another reason I think I would prefer high-school teaching to university teaching is that it would allow me to have closer relationships with and more of an impact on my students, as well as in the community. It's important for me to be able to help people and make a real difference in people's lives every day. But what scares me to death about planning to be a high school teacher is the fact that I'm barely 4'10" and eighty-six pounds, with a nearly flat chest, a childish face, and a relatively high-pitched voice. Most people I meet in public are absolutely incredulous when they learn I'm twenty years old. They just refuse to believe it. I am deeply afraid of getting this same incredulous reaction when I walk into my job interviews. Whoever interviewed me would surely laugh or joke about my size; he or she would never consider me a serious candidate. Furthermore, I'm afraid of getting this same incredulous reaction when I stand in front of a classroom for the first time. How would my students feel to have a teacher who is tinier than even the smallest one of them? Would they ever be able to trust and respect me, when I look and sound like a twelve-year-old? How could I put up with the inevitable laughing, teasing, and dismissal? How could I be taken seriously? I need to know how much weight should be given to these concerns. Please be honest and tell me, is it realistic for a person of my stature to try to be a high school teacher? Do you think someone like me could actually be hired and taken seriously as a teacher, and if so, what would it take? How could I get school administrators and students to view me as an adult? If this is not realistic, are there any other promising careers for someone who (1) loves the French language, (2) loves helping people, and (3) wants to have a reasonably secure job in the near future?

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    As a school board members, age 32, who sometimes looks at our new teachers and thinks, "When did they all get to be 12? Does this mean I'm old?" I promise it won't matter if you can project professionalism. Maybe spend a little time focusing on classroom management techniques (which, really, ALL teachers should learn) so that you feel confident that you have this managed. I'm only 5'2" and I had teachers shorter than me. I also had teachers, when I was a senior, who were only 3 years older than I was who had enough AP credits to skip a year of college. A couple of whom I'd actually BEEN IN HIGH SCHOOL WITH when I was a freshman and they were seniors. I think you should maybe relax a little bit about your size; I expect it matters a heck of a lot more to you than it does to other people. I mean, this? "I am deeply afraid of getting this same incredulous reaction when I walk into my job interviews. Whoever interviewed me would surely laugh or joke about my size; he or she would never consider me a serious candidate." That strikes me as such a truly, deeply bizarre reaction. I've interviewed a ton of people at this point, and I don't recall EVER reacting to their physical body beyond whether they were appropriately dressed and had a decent handshake. And laughing or joking about someone's size strikes me as beyond inappropriate and unprofessional. It would never even cross my mind to do such a thing. I've interviewed MEN shorter than me -- recall that I'm 5'2" -- and it didn't seem remotely relevant to their interview or ability to do the job. (The only reason it even registers is that I so rarely meet men shorter than I am.)

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I'm not a teacher, but I was six foot two in high school. My German teacher may have had ten pounds on you, and she's easily on my top five all-time K-12 teacher list. She ruled the roost, graded strictly and we all loved her. My physics teacher was a man my size, but the class just walked all over him. It's all in the bearing.

Rat Spatula

I used to be a high school teacher at a pretty rough school, and while I'm not slender, I am 5'3" and frequently got mistaken as a student in the hallways at first glance. When walking my kids out for fire drills and the like, they'd constantly say things along the lines of, "I thought you were taller!" I have told 6'3" 300 lb boys to sit down, shut up, and stop screwing around, and they have obeyed quickly and with alacrity. This is totally realistic, and you can do it!!! The trick for this (and really, 60% of classroom management) and for job interviews? Self-confidence. Stand, sit and walk with good posture and your head up--this makes you look more authoritative. Project calm, sound decisive and sure of yourself, and be even-handed about everything. Dress up (Seriously. Whether they'll admit or not, most people DO judge people by how they dress, so suit up or at least do a blouse/blazer with nice shoes. You can make yourself look like authority pretty easily and cheaply via Ross or Marshalls). With kids be firm but fair and consistent, make your class interesting, show you care about them without trying to be one of their friends, and you'll have it made. It won't be easy, but you'll have student teaching to practice these things, and never before has "Fake it til you make it" been more true. It took me student teaching & then two classes of crazy kids in summer school to finally nail this down, but if I can do it, you certainly can! Good luck!

smirkette

What everyone else has said, plus Whoever interviewed me would surely laugh or joke about my size; There is no "surely" here, and that you say this indicates that it's an area you need to work on, in terms of confidence (and projecting it). If, however, an interviewer were actually to say this to your face, this is good news: it means you should not work there, because you'd be working for an unprofessional jerk, and you get to find this out before they offer you the job!

rtha

Thank you all for your job advice, stories, inspiration, and encouragement. I almost want to mark every single one of your comments as a best answer. You've convinced me!

datarose

Whoever interviewed me would surely laugh or joke about my size; he or she would never consider me a serious candidate. Furthermore, I'm afraid of getting this same incredulous reaction when I stand in front of a classroom for the first time. How would my students feel to have a teacher who is tinier than even the smallest one of them? Would they ever be able to trust and respect me, when I look and sound like a twelve-year-old? How could I put up with the inevitable laughing, teasing, and dismissal? How could I be taken seriously? You are certainly not too short or slight to be taken seriously as a teacher. But your attitude sounds so incredibly self-defeating. It is indeed going to be difficult for you to be taken seriously if you insist on valuing the uninformed opinions and superficial reactions of others as more credible than your own experience, emotional maturity, and knowledge. I'd advise you to stop thinking of yourself as looking like a child. If you've spent any time with twelve-year-olds, you must have noticed that there are obvious physical differences between barely-adolescent girls and women in their twenties. People are terrible at judging age even when they're not delivering a little jibe to cover their own insecurities. (Complete with that condescending little chuckle about it being such a compliment to be mistaken for younger, right?! Ugh.) It will behoove you to be more meticulous about your professional appearance and demeanor than others your age, sure. And you can get a head start by taking some classes in public speaking and taking on leadership roles wherever possible -- practice getting comfortable projecting your authority.

desuetude

All high school students come pre-equipped with a full decade of intense Pavlovian conditioning that runs like a powerful current through their heads and can be tapped into if you can project the right stimuli. Your ability to tap into that flow will matter much more than your percieved age much less size.

Blasdelb

Building on Blasdelb.. I only talked about the interview process because getting your foot in the door is the bigger deal. The kids really are programmed to respect the teacher. The only reason you wouldn't get respect in the classroom is if you were a teacher w/ poor classroom management skills - not because you were a short teacher. Good interactions with parents/guardians will help you there, too. And I forgot.. have a quip ready for parents and co-workers. "Wow you look young!" say something like "I really should lay off the Oil of Olay at night.." or "I can't wait for my first wrinkle!" When the kids say something, say "I look this young so that I can spy on you all that much easier - you'll never notice me! "

adorap0621

Also, read the later Laura Ingalls Wilder and Anne of Green Gables books - both Laura and Anne become schoolteachers at, like 16 years of age - that was the done thing, back then. And in both situations, it's a rural community with no stark separations by grade level. Which means you had these teenage girls often teaching students who were not only bigger than them, but older, too. That'll definitely put being a 22 year old high school French teacher in perspective.

Sara C.

If you have the opportunity to do a summer study program in France, just that can be something that will add a lot to your confidence. If you're going to be teaching French, being perceived as really knowledgeable will work in your favor as will the student teaching, your education courses and the opportunities you seek out to present yourself as a leader while you are in college. Even presenting in class or volunteering to lead some project can help you develop confidence. The reason you don't know how completely insignificant your physical size is in the way you are perceived is because you do not have experience as an adult. All your peers are asking this same kind of question about how others are going to perceive them except they have in their minds whatever flaw they imagine is going to make people reject them as not really adult or professional. They're asking, "Am I too tall, too fat, too ugly, too shy, too country . . ." The only way out of this is just to forget about how you imagine you look to others and focus on what you can prove to yourself that you can do and learn to do. Take these chances to stretch your powers now while you are in the relatively safe college environment. That's what college is for. Good luck. I hope you make the most legendary, elegant, effective and beloved high school French teacher your selected school has ever seen. Your students will tell stories about how awesome you were and you already know the punchline they'll always end that story with! You're the story, not the punchline, and right now you're just looking at your story backwards.

Anitanola

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