How do I write to Loose Women?

How do I get over (and stop idealizing) women who can write well?

• Maybe this is a personal insecurity, but for whatever reason I'm really attracted to this (I consider it a special type of intelligence that few seem to have) and it makes breakups that much harder (maybe partially because it seems rare). My last girlfriend wrote a lot of fan-fiction (including some that was sexually explicit), and although I'm not specifically interested in that type of writing, it's written so well and with so much emotion that it's devastating to read since we've broken up. Is it normal to be allured by expressive writing, what does this preference say about me, and what can I do to make relationships with these people less painful in the future? I should note that, in my experience, the real-life relationships of these women seem to be compared to the fantasies they create (and sometimes, hopefully understandably, pale in comparison).

• Answer:

  Two things stand out to me in your question: 1 you perceive this ability as rare which intrinsically gives it more value. 2 you seem embroiled in a fantasy life which will rarely live up to reality. In regard to the first point, being able to write well isn't that rare, you seem to be doing quite well finding partners with this attribute so it can't be that unusual can it? I am curious why you hold writing well in such high regard, maybe if you got to the bottom of that it may give you more insight. Secondly, you need to start forming your opinions about people based on how they behave around you and towards you , not on their creative writing skills. Writing well is no way to judge somebody as a partner, it is just one facet of their life and abilities,and whilst a positive one, it needs to be put into perspective. I think it is more important to judge people on how loving, caring and understanding they are towards you.