What is the best advice women would like to give to men on how to approach women?

I'm doing a 30 Day Challenge where I approach 10 women a day. I'm not a woman obviously as the question asks for..but I have learned quite a bit so I thought it would be relevant if I shared my personal experiences. Check it out here: http://www.knowledgeformen.com/30-day-challenge-approach-10-women-a-day/ A few things to keep in mind when approaching: 1) Freedom from outcome. It doesn't matter what happens. Just be yourself. 2) Always think woman abundance. Never get caught up on one girl. 3) Focus on having fun not on entertaining her 4) The worst thing that can happen is not as bad as you think 5) Never place the woman on a pedestal. Even when woman do this to guys it's annoying. Woman don't like this so don't do it. It demonstrates low value on your end. Basic openers: Keep it simple, be confident and have fun. 1. If your experienced and confident this is really all it takes:  Strong eye contact > Smile > Hi 2. "Hey let me guess where you're from" 3. "Hey you look like you're having too much fun here" - when obviously she is bored out of her mind. Check out my challenge here: http://www.knowledgeformen.com/30-day-challenge-approach-10-women-a-day/

Take a trip to Dallas, Fort Worth, Austin or Houston and spend some time in upscale country western bars (if they still exist) ... the ones where they still do the Texas Two Step .... pay careful attention to the tall, handsome men wearing cowboy hats (the ones who call the women "m'am") ... if you sit at the bar for a few hours near any women you'll get a wonderful tutorial in how gentlemen approach ladies ... they are masters at it .... Now if you can't manage that, here's a few notes from that scene as I recall it:  the men are clean, smell good, wear clothes that fit properly, are in good physical shape ... they smile a lot and have a sense of humor, persuade but don't push and know what "no" means, have a gift for talking about nothing but making it sound vaguely interesting. They are unfailingly polite, know how to dance and generally leave the impression that if they end up going home alone, that'll be just fine ... which is probably why they usually don't. If you're a city guy, forget the boots, big hat and twang .... but the rest of it will hold you in good stead with most ladies.

In as much as I have not had a history of successful relationships long term, I am twice divorced, I do not know what credibility issues may impeded or diminish the value of what I might contribute. However, I do live in a city with a high powered social scene, as Las Vegas can pretty much present any combination of male female social interface. What I would say I have learned is that there are no prescriptions for "getting the girl", or successful dating. If you are good at these types of social exchanges, then that is all that it means. You cannot anticipate all the myriad of possible scenarios that could present in the course of any evening. The dating scene must not be viewed in some type of separate, alternative reality. It is just another hybrid strain of everyday life. If you want to get into a prescriptive , predictable result type program, then what works predictably are large and prodigious amounts of money, alcohol, drugs, and women who are on your payroll, to engage the other women into the setting. A surprising number of beautiful women are bi-sexual, and having a girl friend. or a comrade who is beautiful and bi, will increase your chances with women ten fold at the very least. It is a rather disturbing commentary on the state of our society, but that is where it is at. This is not a view point reflected and skewered by Las Vegas, because I am continuously meeting people, girls. from all over the country. Women most definitely dominate the social playing field, especially when they are comfortable having sex with each other.

Read my latest article from my blog: Most of you(maybe all of you) have already seen some really beautiful girl on the street but there were only words from your side.But not action. You probably said something like: "Wooow that girl is really hot! I wish I could have had one like this one." Can you answer why there was a problem with coming up to her, stopping her and start talking to her to get to know her? I guess most of you have never talked to a random girl on the street during day time with the idea of meeting her and then trying to build sexual relationship. What was your problem? A lot of you were maybe in relationship. Maybe a lot of you didn't have time and you were in rush. And probably most of you were just completely scared only of a thought of talking to a random girl on the street. It is a perfect situation to fully express yourself and let others(girls, maybe some other people around) know what an awesome person you are. Think about how you come up to a random beautiful girl, you start talking to her, she laughs a lot and she tries to impress you because you are an awesome guy. You two have a great conversation. Then you exchange numbers and you can continue building. Then you say to yourself: "Why the hell it seemed so hard before?" I don't want to say with this it is not "scary" many times. Yes, it is. There is fear in you before every new interaction. People like me who daily approach some girls have this fear as well. But I get used to that so much that this fear was almost completely suppressed.  You never lose this ANXIETY. Remember: NEVER. Exactly this "never losing fear of approaching girls" pushes me further. EVERY TIME! You should see me when I don't approach any girl for a week or two and then I have to overcome that anxiety as well but I do that. There is no reason why it should hold me back. Why do we have this fear? Now don't think that you are the only guy who gets this fear when it comes to approaching girls. That's not true. This fear has each of us. I want to tell you something about this fear. In general we call itApproach Anxiety(AA). But there are hidden many effigies of fear which cause it. I would say there are these two main fears that cause one big(AA) and then others that are caused by the following fears and today's society:      1) Fear of failure(rejection) - Most of people have fear of rejection but they don't realize that there is no point of respecting this fear. When we go back thousands years ago to caveman times and we think of approaching a wrong woman(a woman of a tribe leader or a woman of a tribe leader's friend) in a tribe you belonged to and you were no the leader or very close friend of the leader of the tribe, you could have been killed. They would have not allowed you to even sexually speak to their women. Nowadays, there is no point of respecting this fear because we live in relatively calm society. You don't have to be scared of getting killed by someone because you approached a girl on the street. Also I can tell you that this fear is caused by illusion that you think is real. The illusion is that you think that others will watch what you do and when you get rejected they will mock you. That's not true. They have enough of their problems. They probably notice for a second but then they will go back to the thoughts of their problems. By the way, why should you even think of fear of rejection? Why don't you just think about how awesome it will be when you get this girl to the bed? That should push you further. 2) Fear of success - When you read "fear of success" you may think that I am a complete retard but that's why I am going to explain you why there is this kind of fear in the following: When we go back to caveman times again, we realize that people had to face discomfort(also fear) very often. We can't even imagine how often! They had to care about food and it was caused by killing wild animals. Also they had to care about safe living in those hard circumstances. It wasn't easy at all! Today we can have almost everything we think of. It is true that there are poor and rich people but still... we live in big comfort. We don't have to think of getting killed by some wild animal or whatever. And that is the point: We don't have to face discomfort so often how our ancestors did. We got used to live in comfort and not trying to move forward. Really high % of the world's population try to move forward only when they are forced(by school, by parents, by breaking up with a girlfriend - many times even break up isn't enough for them to get their lazy asses kicked). With all these things comes fear of succeeding. We got used to be the "same". If you differ from others, you are called moron. You are called nerd. Or you are called idiot because you didn't play by their rules. So we have become afraid of taking action and moving forward because society wouldn't accept that. There is no reason of not being different than others. When you are not afraid of being different, they you are the real man. Then you live your own world and you stop relying on your buddies. Then you know that the most important person in your life is YOU! There are many more reasons why you are afraid of approaching girls fromnot knowing what to say through lack of confidence, lack of experience to being slapped by a girl(I can tell you that during my whole time of approaching women, I have never been slapped or any girl didn't tell me that I am a fucking idiot or something like that). But there are those 2 main factors which cause all the other excuses. Though they are those 2 main factors of fear that I mentioned, a lot of people ask what to speak about when they meet a new girl or how to start a conversation. The answer is: start ANYHOW and speak about ANYTHING. But I want to mention you that the best way how to speak to women is confidently saying them what is going on. You are a man. Man is feels confident in his body. Man feels confident with his words, thoughts and actions. Why should you speak with her about weather when you want to see her naked in the bed? Also realize that I don't want you to go to every girl with a sentence: "HEY! I AM HERE TO FUCK YOU AND YOU SHOULD DO THAT!" No! That is completely wrong. You can tell her that you want to have sex with her but NEVER push the girl into that. It is not good and illegal. Walk up to her, say her that you saw her and she seemed like a girl you want to know. If you want to know her then continue with words that will lead to getting to know her better. But there is one big thing that I need to mention you: it is and interaction between man and woman. She wants to have sex as much as you want to have sex. It is not a situation at the police station so don't make an interview/questioning of it. Tell her your opinions, tell her where you live, tell her that you you just noticed that she wears cool earrings. Say whatever but don't interview her, please! Guys, now, when I told you why you are afraid, you should start thinking and realize that there is no point of respecting these fears. You have to realize that you don't do anything wrong by approaching a random person on the street. Think of that like you are very social person and you just want to talk to a girl, date her and fuck her. Or think of that like you are not very social person and you want to become one. Do whatever but remember that you are a human being. Human beings need society. They need people around them because human beings are social beings. So, finally stop thinking how cruel it can be when you come up to a girl. You think too much! Most of time you even think negatively! That doesn't affect your brain well at all. So step up and start getting to know other people. It doesn't matter whether you are black, yellow, skinny or fat. Girls don't care about our appearance. They want something deeper. They want to know you. they want to know your emotional strength. They want to explore your confidence. They want to know how cool your lifestyle is. They are like volume knobs so it takes more time to attract her. On the contrary guys are like on/off switches. Now there is no reason why you should look for excuses. When you see a next beautiful girl that you want to know just say to yourself: "Fuck fears, they are useless, stop thinking too much about unnecessary things and go to talk to her." Enjoy! :)

I'm a guy too, and one that's not so good at approaching random women.  Also, this advice applies mostly to situations where girls are expecting to be hit on (e.g. a bar).  I think it's pretty simple.  Really, unless you've got something *amazing* to talk about and/or can cause girls to become attracted to you with your charm/charisma/wit (in which case you're probably not asking this question), your success is going to depend on whether or not the girl is attracted to you. You should be able to tell this within about 10 seconds, and you don't have to do much - just say anything.  Smile, and just say anything ("Is it as hard to get the bartender's attention as it seems?" "I really like your necklace.")  If there's a chance she's interested, you'll know - she'll seem happy you're talking to her.  If not, then she's not interested and you move on. I know it's much much easier said than done.  But that doesn't mean it has to be super complicated.

A guy sashaying up and announcing how clever he obviously thinks he is by frothing over with some line he pulled out of the Cracker Jack box doesn't cut it.    That's viewed as the default position for when he runs out of the insight or courage to be real. I love what George Clooney said to Catherine Zeta- Jones in the movie, Intolerable Cruelty:  "You fascinate me,"   That is about as close to a line as any guy should tread in my opinion.  Not some goof ball comment like, "Heaven must be missing an angel.".......etc.   Yah, and a village is missing its idiot. So if a guy is hitting on a naive high school girl,  that's probably the way to roll.  He'll be rolling her back soon enough, however. Women like to be treated with respect.  They love someone who looks into their eyes, listens and hears them when they say they are NOT interested.  Bouncing back over and over when she has given you an answer already is disrespectful and gives the impression he doesn't take her seriously, or doesn't care, or is maybe a little lacking in the intelligence department.  Bad mojo, big turn off.  Be yourself.  If she likes you she will respond.  It there's no vibe, she'll discourage you.  Its really simple.  Be kind.  Be real.  Don't insult her by playing games.

I understand where April is coming from but I think it's a little misguided. She is missing a huge part of the equation: be yourself AND be confident in who you are. I have PLENTY of times been myself, guard down and all, and have been turned down only to go home and wallow in my own self pity "But I was just being myself, what went wrong?" Only, and only, after I introduced confidence in the equation -- not in a overly asshole alpha male way (though that does work) but in a "Hey woman, I'm choosing YOU!" way did I ever start getting anywhere. Think of James Bond, or Don Draper in the TV show Mad Men. Regarding the "hitting on" -- if you're using pickup lines it's over before it even begins. The reason they call it a game is because sex and getting a date and all is the end result. You don't go up to a woman and say hey let's go on a date and have sex. You go up and have an interesting dialogue with her, be flirtatious and playful. Also, don't keep on hitting on her. You're the important one who doesn't have a lot of time, right? Move on to the next one. There is probably a lot more to write about this topic but I think that's a start!

Someone needs to build a mobile app that makes this simpler - you see someone interesting in your physical proximity, you can look up your location to see if anyone is broadcasting availability, peruse their profile, contact them subtly... or, you can just spend your time on the bus getting meta data on the people on it.

1. Say hi to her, with a big smile.   2. Compliment her on her attire--and mean it!   3. Then say, "I hope your boyfriend appreciates you," as you are turning to leave.   If she is interested and single, she will tell you she doesn't have one.   4. Turn back to her to introduce yourself, and shake her hand. 5. Begin conversation.   6. After a couple of minutes, tell her you have to go, but you'd love to pick this up over coffee (or ice cream) tomorrow or a day that works for her.   7. Don't ask for the date, just give her a day to choose from   "Which day works for you?"   8. THEN exchange numbers or e-mail addresses.   Set up the date first, and then get the contact info.   Done.