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Relationship help, please?

• This is so confusing, so I don't blame you if you don't leave any answer, but recently my whole relationship (and life, as it turns out) is going really horribly wrong. I've been in a relationship for nearly a year now, but recently, say the last 6 weeks, my girlfriend has started saying weird things, acting really differently and making me feel about an inch tall. It all started, as I said, about 6 weeks ago. Back then, she first told me that I was "texting her too much", but it was the same amount I had been for the whole time we had been going out, and I got responses to most of them back then. But she has told me otherwise since, and now I've made sure I make the effort to not text her as much, which I am now doing. But she is changing in so many ways towards me. I get so many texts less back, I might get one every four days, and she isn't on facebook or skype at all anymore (we used to use these services a lot because we are long-distance), and it seems like she just doesn't want to talk to me at all. The last two times I have phoned her she hasn't answered me either. Since then I have been made to feel like her lowest priority. I keep on asking as to when we can meet up next, yet she always says she is "too busy", even though I know that she goes out with lots of other friends, including boys that she has never even mentioned to me before. She always tells me she is "not in the mood to talk" if I ask her to as well. The other day I made sure I told her how much I love her, and after that I said "I really hope that we can meet up more in the summer, when you are less busy" and she simply replied "I dunno". I asked her why not and she told me "there's going to be a lot going on", and I said, "ok, I just hope you do get time for me, I'd hate us to drift apart, I don't like to think any otherwise" and she just said back "No-one likes thinking they're going to break up! Surely drifting apart is the easiest thing for us to do!!!", and that hurt me so much. I've always suspected that I care more about her than she does me, I always remember anniversaries, spend lots more on presents, pay for meals and tickets for things out with her, and she doesn't do much in return, which I have never really minded because I know she loves me, but I find it hard to believe that anymore. As well as that, one time when I text her a few days ago to wish her luck in something, I made it a group message and sent it to multiple people, and because it was to multiple people I didn't put any kisses on the end of it. Soon after I sent this, I got a reply from my girlfriend (which was a surprise seeing as she barely ever texts me!), saying "Are you unhappy with me, there were no kisses??", and I explained the fact it was a group message to her, and she was satisfied with my reasoning, which was good. But from that, she obviously believes that the number of kisses shows how you feel about the person you are sending them to, and over the course of the last 6 weeks I'm getting so many varied responses, one time she will send me none, and then one or two or three, which confuses me so much! I can't see anything wrong I could have done, I always try and do the right thing, I change myself for her and make every effort to make myself perfect for her, but she always throws it back in my face! Two days ago, I sent her a text out of the blue, JUST one, and she completely flew off the handle at me and I got a text screaming at me for texting her! She just seems to snap whenever we do get a chance to talk (which isn't very often now), and it is really upsetting me, I've started to self-harm in the last two weeks. She has been cheated on before, and when we initially started going out, she told me that she never would cheat on me, so I do believe that, but I have no idea what is going on anymore. I just don't know why she is doing this, or what she means by doing it! Please, if anyone has gone through anything similar or thinks they might understand why she is being this way, then please, please help!! Anything will be appreciated, thank you so much!

• Answer:

  OK, first step, breathe. You and your girlfriend probably are just going through a rough patch. Judging by how much time you took to type the whole sitch up, i can tell u really love her. DON'T THINK THAT SHE'S CHEATING ON YOU! that's the first thing, girls hate it when they feel like you don't trust them. Stop texting her for a little while. Just to test the situation. If she texts you then that's great. Shes probably gotten a little bored of the relationship, i mean what is a love story without its ups and downs? This is the down part and if you really want to keep riding this relationship roller coaster, then you gotta let it go down before it can go back up. again, if you are still reading this, breathe. let it die down a little then see where it goes. WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT SELF HARM. firstly i ask you, how would self harm help? It makes you an idiot that's what. I am a girl myself, and she might be using this to see how much you love her. Crazy right? Leave it, don't text her, leave it ALONE. If she doesn't text you back by the end of the week, then call her to tell her that you really need to talk to her face to face, no excuses, *skype is ok too. Talk to her about how you feel about this whole situation, and try to fix it. :) Good Luck!