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How to deal with jealousy?

How do I deal with this insane jealousy?

  • I am 18, and never had a boyfriend, but I spend far too much time wishing I did. Now every time I see a couple, I get this feeling close to sickness in my stomach due to how envious I feel. It happens with anyone, like a couple from TV or a movie, celeb couples who are all young and in love, my friends, strangers I see in town...I always just think, "how come everyone else can be in a relationship but me?" As horrible as it is, I see some people and think, even they got a boyfriend, and I still can't. I know very few guys, most of them either in a relationship or like another girl. As far as I or anyone else knows, no guy has ever liked me, and I keep feeling like I am behind everyone else as they are in relationships and I still haven't had my first. This is interferingwith my life, and I don't know how to deal with this insane jealousy. Any advice?

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    Hi there. I know exactly how you feel. I'm going to be 23 in a few months, and I still have not been in a relationship. I have had plenty of crushes in my day, and I'd even fallen in love once, but all of that was only admiration from afar. The feelings I've had for someone else were never, ever mutual, and I'm constantly surrounded by others who are in perfectly happy, healthy relationships. It particularly stings when I see others around me my age and even younger who are not just in a relationship, but married. I often have this jealousy. Not all the time, but it comes and goes. I think jealousy is a natural feeling to have, although it can be a major annoyance. It used to interfere with my life as well in a major way, but over time, I realized that everything happens for a reason, and I don't need to be in a relationship to define myself. Does that make sense? And neither do you. Once you're meant to be in a relationship, you will be, and it'll happen when you least expect it. Things like this take time, but it's definitely something worth waiting for. I'd say just enjoy being single right now. There's so many things you can do when you're single that you wouldn't be able to do anymore once you're in a relationship. Enjoy your life, and have fun! When the time is right, it'll happen for you. Good luck! :)

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There is ALWAYS someone out there that is the perfect other half to every person. You just have yet to find that person - and you may go through several trials and errors before you figure out who it is. Loneliness is hard, but you'll get through it. I promise!

Darian

Go out and try and meet new people!! Or ask one of your friends to set you up they wont set ya up with someone bad!

ashley

Maybe join a dating website to meet new people, well guys. and most girls who have never had a boyfriend or who've been rejected think that nobody likes them, but half the time most guys don't have the balls to ask you out. Also you hopefully won't feel that way when you get into a relationship.

Melissa

It may be hard but you must force your mind on other matters. Analyze your life so you can know what to avoid that stimulate those negative thoughts of jealousy. It also might be best to talk to someone in your life you feel comfortable with talking to about this more.Sometimes someone else who is around you frequently can help you deal with your problems , rather then dealing with them alone. Its never good to have jealousy in you heart. When comparing yourself to others that can bread envy.please read provbers 14:30 the later states: "jealousy is rottenness to the bone" I hope this helped : )

jess smith

If you continue to eat yourself up due to your insane jealousy, you are going to really make yourself have serious health issues. You are already feeling sick to your stomach. Just stop for a minute and think to yourself, "Why am I doing this to myself"? You need to get rid of the negative in your life and invite in positive thoughts and actions. Instead of wallowing in your sorrow, get involved with some activities that you enjoy. Join some kind of club or organization where you can meet new friends. You need to open up to other people. Show them how friendly and open you are. Pleasant and positive actions will bring more people, especially guys, to you. Think about what I've said. You are only 18 and have your whole life ahead of you. There are plenty of opportunities for you out there if you just try to look for them. God Bless You. I hope this helps.

Barbara

Vim do Brasil só pra te xingar seu filho da P U T A.

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