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Can anyone please shed some light in this situation and tell me what you think is wrong?

• I have been having trouble with one particular person and I am wondering whether there is something that is wrong with me or whether there is something wrong with that person... or whether my problems with short term memory for some time is making me not exactly clear about decoding people's personal motivations because I can't pick up subtle hints when situations are mixed or vague. So here it is: There is someone (or more than one person ) who always puts me in strange situations whereby I feel like I have to be on the edge.. This person makes things seem peaceful and sorted out, then suddenly chooses to dramatize or put me on the edge by picking apart an action or word that I say with an implied accusation. I'm tired of feeling like I am on a pendulum when suddenly I am treated like I am a good person and then suddenly suspected of being a bad person. Whenever I am doing a project or work and I demonstrate progress or close to achievement, this person would or do something or create a situation whereby it is meant to make me feel bad to either sabotage it or creates feelings of lack of motivation. Or this person would treat me as if everything is fine, but tell another person something that makes me sometimes not exactly sure whether the other person is implying that I've done something wrong or right. I don't understand why this person cannot tell others the full story of things so that it doesn't seem opposite of each other (otherwise I might be crazy). Then this person also seems to find reasons for incriminating me for something.. for instance, getting me mad, and then using my personality flaws or the things that I said out of anger to gain even more and more ammunition to use against me when telling this to others. Sometimes I wonder whether this might be because this person is from another cultural background and doesn't like the fact that I may have assimilated some cultural traits that this person doesn't like, or whether it may be because I am not conventional or mainstream enough with my personality quirks or idiosyncratic, eccentric ways of thinking, another thing I think of may be that I had been suffering from a sprained ankle for a longer time than others and people thought that I was going to have a permanent limp for the rest of my life, or whether the fact that this person had built up resentment that I wasn't reciprocal enough with emotion when I was too caught up in depression, or whether this person was punishing me because I was not complying as much to what they wanted to mold me into becoming. Sometimes I also think that the drama or the sense of being "suspected" is actually a control tactic to scare me into proving all the more the fact that I have to be more productive than anyone else, or whether my long term lack of being efficient enough as a person or underdeveloped in certain facets of life (not "underdeveloped" but not developed as much to the point of finesse and cunningness for the situation) is an altogether frustrating experience for this person. Can anyone give me some ideas as to why I keep running into such situations? Let me know if I am missing something or I am just stupid about this.

• Answer:

  It looks to me like this person is bullying you in a very intricate way. The only thing you can do is to keep as much distance as possible from this person, and if and when they seek you out for their personal entertainment (which is what they're doing) be absolutely, coldly direct with them. Don't give them any more information about anything than you would give to a stranger, and if they start trying to draw you into one of those situations that makes you uncomfortable don't engage them. And if this happens to be someone you work with I would recommend going to your supervisor or whoever it is you can report to and tell them that you feel this person is creating a hostile work environment for you and you want it to stop.