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Culture Shock Again! Stranger in a Strange Land. What to do?

  • Transplant from Southern Calif to So Ohio. Time Warp! These fine folks here don't move around much, and they already have enough friends they have known since forever. What can I do to avoid being a hermit? The matter is further compounded by the fact that I have always been a reader of books [Doh!]. Just don't fit in with the good ol' Boys. And even further compounded by the fact that I am looking after my 85 year old father in pristine suburbia (full of retired people way richer than me) (and a few young couples with trophy wives who can afford to live here) AND the fact that if I don't want to drive a half hour on the freeway to get to some other part of Cincinnati where there are not Zombies, I don't know anyone there or where to go, or even what it has to offer. Too much driving for marginal potential return and too much not knowing where to go. And I hate driving; lived in 18 wheelers for 10 years and I rather enjoy being "home" for a change. But what to do about the culture shock and the isolation of not having any friends? Pretty much given up on True Love, all the good ones are taken. All the females who are "available" are crazy, so have written that off for this lifetime. I'm pretty comfortable with that, although I might blame God for not blessing me..... in my less charitable moments. How the heck does a 56 year old man make friends? I have no clue. Ohio culture is static while Los Angeles is dynamic. Facts: I am living in my old dad's house for the duration. Duty, Honor, Country! So I am a landless peasant, driving an old but very dependable car. Not much to brag about, having started over from evacuating from North Korea (er, uh, I mean California...) about 3.5 years ago I pay my own bills and am a prepper, debt free, and able to withstand the Zombie Apocalypse better than you. Am divorced and my 3 sons are adults now, so I'm on gravy time......

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    Hello, #1! I had to laugh-but not at you. You see, I totally get where you're coming from, having come to W. Va. from New Jersey. Omg culture shock! (So right they dont get out much, and even worse where I am!) They're not used to foreigners much lol. But you will find some good people in your area, trust me. And do consider a visit to New Port, Ky. A daughter of a deceased friend lives there and its a wonderful town. Even has an aquarium, or did! Go camping, hiking, or walking in the area. California it is not-no earthquakes! But these hills are beautiful. Cincy is an artsy town, is it not? Why can't you find anyone to date? Are there philosophy groups? Try the library-really. Just don't be a snob and stop stressing California and enjoy Cincy, and you'll find friends- even at 56. :) Good luck!

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Stop thinking of it as a strange land, first off. Try appreciating whatever it is Ohio has to offer. Take in the sights, join clubs, go to the YMCA. Do whatever it is you enjoyed doing in Cali in Ohio. I'm sure along the trips of yours you'll be able to meet some new companions. I can't say much about your romance dilemma...I'm only 15.

Take an assessment of your hobbies and interests. Find area events and places that match. Same with a good old coffee shop and bookstore. Main thing is to start getting out and about. Don't be a stranger. You'll make friends. Like guns? Gun folks are like minded near anywhere. Go to plafes that sell. Events, ranges, repair shops. etc... Be yourself. Ohio will treat you well. Give the good folks and you a chance. Personally, if I were in your shoes? I have my hobbies, guns, cars, antique radios/TV's. Sci-Fi, etc...Relocating would be hard at first. Adjustment would come though. A new Lady? In good time and if meant to be. Never say never.

Don't Fear The Reaper

Isn't this a repost from about a year ago? Do what you enjoy. Rent a video of The African Queen and enjoy. If TSHTF then we'll be making many new friends, enemies and alliances. If not, being confident and independent will be a great attractant. You decide now involved you want to be.

balloon buster

Write a zombie movie script. like the stepford wives or something. And then show it to your neighbour and ask him what he thinks of it. Then go back to your basement and laugh your heart out. And say to yourself, "you, evil genius you!"

WaterStrider

Perhaps it's a good time of life to, while caring for dad (Dog bless!!), perhaps do some 'inward' journeying. You say what you do but who's doin' the doin'? I don't have to tell you that "We don't see the world as it is, we see it as we are!" It sounds like you are trying to fill time that might be better spent in other endeavors? Besides, I'm sure that dad requires a goodly chunk of time. Perhaps he and you can learn to practice some Zen meditation.. read a bit of meaningful stuff to him... Become Enlightened together! The Universe knows your 'needs', every moment, and provides the perfect moment in accord with those 'needs'! No doubt that as you find the Beauty (Love/Healing) within (the hardest person, ever, to Love is ourselves!), you'll find Beauty wherever you are! tat tvam asi (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tat_Tvam_Asi)

nameless

Find a poker game, or start one. They all have wives, girlfriends, that have sisters, girlfriends. You can see people very well (into their soul), across a poker table, and there's plenty of time to do it. It may not be the best place for "positive" reinforcement of you quest, for if these guys wanted to be at home, they wouldn't be playing poker.

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