When and where did Child Labor start and end?

His child, his parents, his ex... I'm so confused?

• Where do I start!?! Before I met my boyfriend, he was in a relationship with this girl for nearly 3 years. they broke up, and a couple of months down the line he finds out she's pregnant. He mentioned abortion, girl has gone spare, and ultimately he decided to give the relationship another chance. It did not work out, they separated before the kid was born, when the child was about 1 month he moved on to the other side of the country and started university. when the child was 7 months we met. that was over 18 months ago. We were inseparable since. we got a flat together and got engaged. for about 8 months he did not speak to his ex because she kept telling him that if he wants to ever see the kid he must come without me. so they had a bust up about that and the communication stopped. Last christmas his parents got involved and decided they want to be part of the child's life, and therefore my fiance too, and his mother took him at his ex's place to see the child. I was promised that the relationship in strictly for the benefit of the child, and nothing more. His parents are now seeing the child very often and they are having the ex and the kid spending weekends at theirs many times. Last weekend we have announced that we are planning to have the wedding this summer, and nobody from his family showed the smallest bit of enthusiasm, instead, they went and brought the ex and the child over at theirs again for the weekend. Now his mother is secretly planning sleepovers for the child and tells my bf to go over without me. I was prepared to accept the kid in my life with open arms, and I was prepared to love him but as it is the ex is blackmailing my bf tat if he comes with me she will cut any connections between them and he will not be allowed to see the kid anymore. what pisses me off is the fact that he does not stand up for me and the fact that him mother is pushing me away from my bf. It just seems like a common effort between them two to get me out of the picture. My fiancé seems to have lost his back bone in this situation, because ha has his mother, and the mother of his kid putting him between rock and hard place. therefore if ha sticks up for me he will get it in the neck from both of them. so he thinks getting me upset is a small price to pay. I am at the end of my powers and I feel I get no appreciation for what I've been doing for him and putting up with for nearly 2 years now. Christ, we are planning a wedding!! that is a big thing in my life, as don't plan to get married every bloody day, but none seems so give it the importance it deserves therefore making me feel like a third feel all the time. So he is gone again spending time with his parents, grandparents and his child whilst I am not allowed to be with him. we were planning for 5 months to go to his cousin's wedding, and the last day I find out that his mother did not want me to go... that is to find out later in the evening that she went and brought the child and grandparents and everything over for the weekend.... whilst, again, I am pushed aside... Basically, I don't know if it's worth keeping fighting for this relationship when is rather clear to me that his mother is swaying his mind against me, and towards the child and the ex. I know is a long read, but...any suggestions

• Answer:

  To be honest your b/f has treated everyone appallingly He should have been supporting his child all along, not moving onto a new relationship I feel so sorry for this child and for you that has never been treated with an ounce of decency Why does he not have his child over to his place, then nobody can dictate who else is there? He's obviously seeing the child through his own parents, which is not the right way to go about it at all He needs to arrange access visits where he goes and collects his child, spends the day with him/her and then you get to meet the child too and build a relationship as well His parents are obviously giving the child love and support which your b/f is failing to do So get your b/f to get more involved with the child, bring him/her to your place for the evening.weekend then the parents will back down as they'll see that the child is getting plenty love and support from him and you