I can't control my dreams, how do i lucid dream?

Me also only have bad dreams many is we get hurt to many time we feel no love that why only nightmare come

To lucid dream: Try jumping into the air a few times a day when nobody is around. Do this daily. After three to four weeks, if you've been consistent, you'll have a dream where you jump into the air. But in dreams, we don't just drop back to the ground, we float back down. Then you'll know you're in a dream. The little girl sounds like your undeveloped side, your shadow. As a child grows, they adapt to the expectations of their environment, such as family, school and culture. This adaptation forces them to suppress aspects of themselves that are considered unsuitable. Yet lost in these suppressed aspects are vital instincts which will be needed in the future. Banished to the oblivion of the unconscious, these lost instincts merge together, coalescing into a subpersonality. This archetype was given the name "Shadow" by the psychologist Carl Jung. Because this archetype is filled with all the things the individual shunned, the Shadow is projected onto others. Think of someone you loathe or envy, who's characteristics you despise. That will give you an image of your own Shadow. Others see these same characteristics in you, but of course, you don't. Accepting the dark side of ourselves is a bitter pill to swallow. The encounter of the Shadow in dreams can be a shock. The enemy has been found, and it is us. Yet accepting this undeveloped side of our personality is the key to unlocking our potential. Integrating the Shadow releases all the energy bound up in this archetype. This is a necessary step in the psychological growth of the person, and allows for the continuing forward momentum in the individual's life.