Is female the more dominant gender?

I don't know who I am or how to identify myself?Gender Identity and Sexuality.?

• This question more so revolves around the sexuality sense I guess. For two years now I have been (in a way) in a mental war with myself, I don't know how to identify myself as a person and my sexuality.Sexuality being a huge factor but on equal terms with who the hell I am.I am female and will be 21 this year so bare with me while I TRY to explain this in hopes for answers. All through High School I always thought I was pretty average, nothing wrong with me (but we all have our battles with depression) and never once had any major attractions to anyone, no one. Not even the so called 'Hottest boy' or the 'Most beautiful Girl'. I was in a sense absent with that part of being a teenager.Not once did I build a crush or had any sexual or romantic feelings towards anyone, however I (oddly and shamefully) did become a tad attracted to anime guys (wtf I know). Once out of High School however things did begin to change little by little over the years.Although I still was not attracted to any of the people I would meet (I'm not that socially awkward).A close friend of mine was genuinely interested as to why I was not attracted to anyone or why it was I found it odd to be in a relationship with either a boy or a girl.The answer is, I dont know. When I hit college however I did find myself to lean towards women (especially those who were very head strong and confident,dominant but kind), as college life ticked on I thought I was a lesbian as I was attracted to a few select women.I didnt really start to really research sexualities until my own mother had asked me about my sexuality. This is a little harder to explain than I thought so I am just going to lay out there now. Basically, I am attracted to men and women, no matter the way they present themselves whether they be FTM's or MTF's, hell even just born guys and girls.Gender just does not bother me, it's me that bothers me.(I have yet to still be in a relationship but I am sure this is how I will be). With women that were born that gender I tend to find myself wanting to be with the type I described earlier; Head strong, confident, dominant etc.But with MTF's I see myself being the more dominant role. (Though I am not a dominant person by nature) With men that were born with that gender I tend to find myself greatly attracted to those who are soft and almost feminine, and this attraction is much stronger than how I would feel with a woman as 'I' see myself as the more dominant one, I want to be the one protecting them.But with FTM's I tend to see myself as the more softer person, I'd want them to be 'the head honcho' in a way. And now comes the issue of myself with own gender identify. I'm torn,when I look into my own attractions it splits me into whether I identify myself as female or male. When I am attracted towards women I dentify myself as a woman (a majority of the time) but when I become attracted towards FM's.MTF's and feminine and more softer men I tend to fantasize about being a man.How I would look and act as a man and have even given myself a male name 'Logan'.I love it,I love when I have those dreams and fantasies.I feel (in a way) more confident when I think of myself as a guy.Pregnancy has never really bothered me, however when 'Baby Week' comes on I will admit to becoming clucky. Who am I?What am I? and How to identify myself if identifiable at all?Thoughts?

• Answer:

  Who cares about rigidly defining who you are, really? You don't need to know who you are, only what you want. If you want to sleep with a guy or girl, go with it. You don't have to conform to what everyone categorises. Just go with the flow and you'll find it so much less stressful. If someone asks you just say you don't know and aren't worried about it. You're stressing over something that doesn't even matter. Just be who you are and nothing else matters.