Who do you think is harder to understand, a man or a woman?

Leo Woman + Pisces Man -- how will we end up?

• From all the articles and info I've gathered, it's apparently a doomed relationship, right? I hope not... I think I've fallen hard for him. For once, I've met someone who's completely okay with who I am, no qualms or judgement. However, there are some downsides but, no one's perfect. We met when I was 3. He was 19. My father and his father were business partners. His father thought he was an epic failure and suggested an arranged marriage between us to salvage some legacy. Unfortunately, a whole lot of drama ensued before we met. He apparently fell madly in love with another woman (his brother's fiance) which ended in a lot of trauma and a miscarriage. He claims that I was/am the only good thing in his life. Given the age gap, he's always insisted we keep things platonic, that he'll never view me as nothing more than that adorable brat he hung out with when we first met. We eventually lost touch after I was 6 and were only reunited when recently: I'm 16 and he's 32. I think he's the most gorgeous man I've ever seen and we get on so well, intellectually and conversationally...and physically. I've cajoled him into my way of thinking--that we should have a physical relationship since we appease each other's sexual prowess. But, I've come to find out that his prior ex-girlfriend, the one with the miscarriage and all that jazz is living in Paris. He travels there every year on "business" and sees her. I don't know what their relationship is--I assume they're still intimate as he still has her picture on his desk. He's not really lying since he does have some hotels in Paris so, he technically goes there for SOME business. I made it quite clear in the beginning that I was fine if we remained friends with benefits in spite of the fact that I adore him and he always maintains that I'm the best thing in his life, that I make him think of happy times, that I'm like his soulmate because I understand him and the world apparently. Coming from humble loveless beginnings, I've managed to immerse myself fully in academics, education, arts and cynicism so I think have leverage in terms of our age gap and intelligence and thought. I'm far too conservative and reasonable to claim I have life experience in those terms though. Throughout my entire life, I can think of no other happier time than when I was with him when I was younger and we'd play tag and all those stuff. I was over the moon when we met again. I was 15 and we managed to pick up where we left off...with the exception of fairly recently when I came onto him at his apartment. I usually visited him there quite often in the company of friends and the odd time alone. We'd watch movies or play some Wii most of the time. I occasionally did come onto him other times outside of his apartment and sometimes at his place but, he'd always insist we keep things platonic. Things only became "complicated" or rather, heated when I heard he had an argument with the aforementioned girlfriend. Basically, we had a party to go to the day after so, I went to his office to plainly state that he should simply man up and get it together so we make a decent impression to everyone--potential investors and clientele. He pretty much said I was being selfish albeit practical and that he "saw the way I looked at him" and how he "knew what I really wanted", how I always "subtly asked for it" with my "dresses" and how I "acted", how I "wanted him even now". It ended with my telling him that I was cool enough to actually acknowledge my desires and that I wasn't a pathetic sulk still basking in the tragic romance of a miscarriage unable to commit to more than the odd fling in Paris. I ended up going to his apartment a few days later. I avoided talking to him for most of the party. He apologized and said that I was right, that he found himself wanting me and that he always did but didn't want to ruin things between us. Amidst his gentlemanly sob stories and some hormones, we ended up having some very hot foreplay...and continue to do so. I want to give him my virginity but, I'm still not completely sure how to go about it or how things will end up. He claims that he loves me and doesn't care about his ex, that if he has me, he doesn't need to have "Paris". He wants to be a father. He wants to be the awesome father that his wasn't and hear the pitter-patter of tiny feet but, I'm just not ready to have kids. By the time I am, he'll be too old to really enjoy a lot of time with them. I'm usually so practical--I want to put his need for children above my need for him. I want him to be happy but, he says he's just happy with me. He always holds me up on a pedestal and tells me I'm his everything and knowing the vanity and self-interest that goe

• Answer:

  You are the most articulate and well-written 16 year old I have ever read about. It would be a great pity if you wasted your intelligence and time with astrology. However I dont mean to offend. If your situation does not break any laws then enjoy it while it lasts because everybody needs relationship experience. You have made a very good point of realising the long term future is limited.