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Im 23, should my dad still look at my bank account?

  • So my dad PISSED me off this morning when I found out that he still stalks my bank account. He acts like he can't trust me with anything and always constantly nags me when my account gets low. I still live at home with them and I set up my car insurance to withdraw from my checking account. For some reason he doesnt think I'm responsible enough to deposit the necessary funds in my account to pay that off. My account has gotten below 10 dollars but I have always deposited enough money WAY ahead of time to pay it off. He knows that I have about 2000 dollars in checks and tried to tell me to deposit it all in the bank because I might "lose" that money. When I told him I liked to keep it at home so I wouldnt waste it on the card he said "yeah I know you do" in the most smartass tone ever. His exact words were "you need to put all of your money in your checking account so you can see where you are spending money". Well dad, I obviously know where I'm spending my money because it's mine. He just wants to know every ******* detail about my life and it is so ******** ANNOYING! How do I get him off of my back without having to move out and cause a huge fight?

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    he should not be poking his nose in your private business without being invited. It is hard for parents to let go of the 12 year old you once were and start seeing you as a capable adult. Some parents never manage that transition. Seriously, moving out is the best way.

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Your dad is right. It doesn't make any sense for you to leave checks lying around your home. If you don't want to deposit it in your checking account, then set up a savings account and put it there. It sounds like you need to show your dad that you're capable of making adult decisions on your own. The way to do that is to make some. Start your own bank account. Move out into your own place. Be an adult.

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You might try growing up and moving out so you are not still sponging on your parents. You can open a new account with a rented post office box for an address and then just do your banking online or even simply opt for paperless banking and set up the account so he cannot get into it without your password. Beyond that it is stupid to keep $2000 in uncashed checks in the house or carry them around. If you cannot trust yourself not to spend that money foolishly then your dad should be looking over your shoulder when it comes to money.

Pal

He's just being a dad.Trust me.My dad did the same with my brother when he still lived with us.Really,it's not that he doesn't trust you but,like my dad and brother,because you haven't moved out,he still feels like your his little child and that he doesn't want anybody to hurt you,or you do anything wrong.And perhaps he made mistakes (certain mistakes) and he doesn't want you to make the same mistakes he did when he was 23.Just tell him kindly (WITHOUT raising your voice) how it makes you feel like he doesn't trust you when he does that,and that you would like it if he stopped.But personally, I think that he has a right to,unless you help him pay the mortgage!!

Madison

I would listen to your dad he sounds like he knows what he's talking about he's only looking after you and making sure you are treating your money with respect. On the other hand your 23 and it does seem a little excessive that he still checks it. It would be better if he gave you sound advice then its up to you to follow it. At least if you dont follow it he can say i told you so. Imho i think he should give it a break. Its obvously causing you a lot of stress and your a man now so maybe if you were under 21 it would be reasonable but your not so he should ease off.

Alex

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