Taurus woman, Gemini man...does astrology really matter?

sounds like everything is going great you don't need astrology:)

Astrologers don't compare signs when they look for compatibility. They look for aspects between planets in one chart, and planets in the other chart. Your Moons are both in Sag. This gives similar emotional needs. BUT your emotional need will not connect with his emotional need UNLESS there is a conjunct aspect between the two planets (they are within 8 degrees of each other). But ... if his Moon in Sag is between 112 and 128 degrees from your Mars, this is a compatible trine aspect, indicating that his emotional nature arouses you physically. And your sexual style interacts well with his emotional need. Of course, if that distance isn't there, then that aspect isn't, either. So make up a list of aspects between your two charts. This site has a handy "score sheet" approach, suitable for beginners: http://cafeastrology.com/synastry.html One thing that the site doesn't cover is the importance of Ascendant contacts (must have the birth time for that). ONE person's Ascendant or Descendant MUST conjunct (be within 8 degrees) of the other person's Sun or Moon or Venus or Mars, or the relationship is not likely to be a significant relationship, nor to last long. You say you have Leo rising .. this would require that one of those 4 planets of HIS be in Leo or Aquarius AND within 8 degrees of whatever degree your Ascendant is in. You don't indicate what his Ascendant is, so I can't tell you if one of your 4 planets (the ones I mentioned) could be in aspect to his Ascendant or Descendant. One thing to remember is that infatuation is NOT love. That infatuation is literally addictive (brain chemistry), which is why we feel so marvelous when we are "in" love ... and that our brain will eventually overcome the addictiom and stop it. Also that love is NOT what makes a long-term relationship work. And that (according to psychologists) the greater the chemistry at the beginning of the relationship, the more problems there will be once the infatuation wears off. Everything you do is wonderful ... yup, infatuation IS wonderful. Real love takes over a year to ever begin to grow and it is soothing, not "wonderful" ... calming, not exciting. The problem with having been in a most-horrible relationship is that YOUR unconscious chose and accepted this man. At the beginning, you sure didn't see it coming or you would have run ... right? When we have an unconscious mind that likes us and wants a happy relationship for us, it steers us AWAY from toxic men. So when we have a toxic relationship, we need to understand that we got into it, unconsciously knowing what WAS going to happen, but thinking we deserved it. So it will happen again, unless .... Unless you have since dug into your unconscious, uncovered those unconscious attitudes that caused you to pick this toxic Cancer man, and resolved those underlying issues. Otherwise your unconscious is going to do the same thing with every man you meet, accepting only those that it sees as giving you a toxic relationship. The problem with infatuation is that we do not consciously see clearly ... we don't understand who we have accepted until AFTER the infatuation has died (2 years, at the longest). But our unconscious knows. Therefore, given your history, go very very carefully and slowly. Keep a rein on your heart until you have figured out what your unconscious is doing to you, and resolved it. It is NOT this guy chiseling away at the stone around your heart ... your conscious mind does not want to be hurt again, but your unconscious mind has it's own agenda -- and a chisel in its hand. A full aspect-derived astrological compatibility will help, but you MUST connect your conscious and your unconscious, so they understand each other and work in accord. Otherwise, I'm afraid that this "wonderful young man" will end up being toxic like the Cancer. Often, the next man is very different from the first one, but we end up feeling just as devastated anyway .,.. our unconscious is pretty deadly accurate at getting the results it wants.