How To Win Him Back?

How can I win my Ex-BoyFriend back?

• Hi there. Back in 2005 I started College doing a 2 Year City & Guilds Diploma in Computing. Anyway whilst on the Course I met some of the most decent Friends that you'd ever meet and my Ex-BF (My then current BF). Ok firstly I would just like to add something which may or may not be relevant to the 'Question' I am asking. Me and My Ex-BF both have Mental Health Problems. I won't mention all of mine but I will list a few and then list my Ex-BF's (Whom has less diagnoses than myself). ~ Me: Paranoid Schizophrenia, Psychosis, Panic Disorder, Uni-Polar Depression, O.C.D ~ Ex-BF: Schizotypal Personality Disorder, Asperger's Syndrome (An Autism Spectrum Disorder), Chronic Depression, Generalised Anxiety. My Ex-BF (Does not like to be named on the Internet so I'll use his *First Given Name 1st Initial*... 'L' then his *Middle Name 1st Initial*... 'A' and also his *Surname 1st Initial*... 'T') So I'll refer to him as 'L.A.T'. Me and 'L.A.T' met in 2005 at College doing the same Computing Course. We were together for almost 4 years and split up on Valentines Day 2009. Throughout mine and 'L.A.Ts' relationship, I was pretty much a b!+ch to him. I treated him in an appalling way and am thoroughly disgusted with myself with how I behaved. I look back and wish I could go back and change it. I have grown up and realised so much since our break-up and am a completely different person now. I used to be selfish in the sense of being out for number one. I over-rode other peoples feeling's including 'L.A.Ts' feelings so log as my needs were met. I used to be pedantic and always nit-picking acting like a conceited ignoramus, an arrogant 'Miss. Know. It. All' thinking I was superior to others. I am filled with self-loathing, shame and remorse at how egotistical I had become and also how audacious I was in making points and arguments. I don't really want to list the things that occurred to treat 'L.A.T' the way I did but I do know that I would never treat him that way ever again. I am a totally different person now. I am affectionate, kind, generous, unselfish, and extremely magnanimous. Now I am totally non-judgemental where as I used to be very sanctimonious. I am quick to defend Friends/Family/Disabled (Both Mental & Physical Conditions/ for example if delusive rumours are circulating about my Friends or I can see that Disabled people are being ridiculed or mocked. I now constantly think what I can do to make people happy and it puts me in high spirits if they are elated in whichever way I have helped them and are fully content. Anyway, I apologise for the length of this 'Post'. Some of you will probably say "Not reading that - Thanks for 2 points" Well good for you. Building up your points list without actually being of any use on the board. How proud you should be. Probably because you are illiterate yourself and they do say you cannot educate pork. =) And to add to that, I don't care if you don't read it and just answer to get 2 precious God damn points. I do however hope to find some genuine people who are not too lazy/thick to read it and will offer me some honest-to-goodness info/reply/advice/response. So after going not just all round the House's to get to this 'Q' but more like all around the World, lol... I would like to ask 'L.A.T' to be my BF again. Me and 'L.A.T' have remained really close Friends after our break-up once things had cooled down. 'L.A.T' actually broke up with me as I was being pathetic and petty and very malicious. He had every right to break-up with me. I would have broke up with me. 'L.A.T' asks me every so often if I had ever considered getting back with him to which I answered that I didn't know. 'L.A.T' responded with a rather congruous riposte as I had given him by saying that he also didn't know to the primary question I asked him of... "Would you get back with me?" After we broke up, me and 'L.A.T' would frequently have sex and he'd come and stay at my Flat with me a few times a Week. It was something that benefited us both. It was only recently that I'd had the awakening that I am actually still in love with 'L.A.T'. Because of my Mental Health Disorders, my sensibility is immensely affected. Sometimes my responsiveness of feelings can be concealed behind a veil of passiveness, my awareness severed and my emotions rumpled. On other days my feelings can be diametrically opposed and I will be full of zeal and joyful. So now I have come to the realisation that my Ex, ('L.A.T') is the one I love. I think these feelings have just been buried somewhere but recently surfaced. Both me and 'L.A.T' have had other Partners since we split up in 2009. We are both currently single which works out for me nic

• Answer:

  Clearly, if he's asking to get back together you should be replying with 'yes', if you want to be with him. Next time he asks about being together be honest and tell him how you feel.