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Do you think dreams are a message from some higher source?

Do you think it's morally right to follow your dreams or get a job that takes care of your parents and why?

  • I posted this in the religoius section because I wanted to see the different answers based on people's religious point of view, since religions often influence a person's morals and the advice they give. People without religion can answer too, but if you answer please state what religious beliefs you have or if you're an atheist. I'm in college and I'm torn between following my dreams, which would mean less time with my family, or getting a job I'm not too happy about but ensures a stable life for me and my parents. If I take the risk and follow my dreams, my parents may not be happy about it. I read books by Paulo Coelho that had a message that if people truly love you, they will support your dreams and want you to be happy. But in a lot of Asian cultures it is huge dishonor to follow my dreams if it is at the expense of not taking care of my parents. I don't want to send them to nursing home. I don't have much family except for my parents and my mom was strict on me most of my childhood, so I don't have many friends I'm close too. I had a best friend but she stabbed me in the back. I'm an adult now in America and I have to figure out what's the best thing to do. People say do what makes me happy, but I don't really know. I want both my dream and my parents.

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    You should help your family when they're in need, but not to the extent of making yourself permanently unhappy. No one wins that way.. Say you did get the job to support your family, you're stuck with that.. You'll have to live with it the rest of your life. You may start resenting that fact, and your family.. If that happens, no one will be happy. I'm sure your parents would understand, and want, you to go for your dreams (so long as it's not something absolutely ridiculous). Anyways, who says you can't support them then? I'm sure they're very capable people, and wouldn't need you to completely take care of them. Just help anyway you can. One of the worst things I can think of is imagining my daughter giving up what she really wants because she thinks she needs to take care of me. Atheist

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You have one life, to live and enjoy. You can't do what other people want you to for all of it. You do also have a responsibility to your parents. What you need to do is compromise. There is rarely a need to jump head first into these things, you can sound them out, see if they work out.

David Rea

people that follow their dreams end up homeless.

Tommy

Sorry i never read the long info. In answer to the question Why not work at your dream occupation and support your parent's????

Whistlebritches

Paulo Coelho is so overrated. People think he's some kind of spiritual guru but he's just a dirty foreigner with poor English skills.

Desiree

You have a responsibility to care for your parents.

Red

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Zeus

This is circumstantial and there is no prescribed answer. Also, I do not believe that this is either/or; I believe that it is possible to do both. Perhaps you can find a trusted relative who will be willing to think this through with you. Look for an answer that satisfies or offers the middle ground for both you and your parents.

E P

You live in the US? Where do your parent's live? How old are they? Do they need care now? Or when they get old? Nursing homes are horrible. You are in college. Go for it. Do what you must to care for them when they are old.

Dalingus

dreams or goals? dreams or delusions?.... physical ability or spiritual faith. knowing God exists is contrary to almost everything the natural and carnal man beleives in. follow satan and you follow delusions.

WitnessofJesus

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