How long was your shortest relationship?

How do I deal with a new long distance relationship?

• I met this guy on a social network (Aug 2011), later found out we have mutual friends. we talked everyday since we met on this social network, exchanged numbers as well. We were very open in our conversations, detailed in most words. When we finally decided to meet up in person (December 2011, 4 months after we met online), we hit it off even more. 2 weeks after, he left for college, an 8 hour drive away. we continued to talk every day as we used to. In feb 2012, i made my way out there to visit him, and i spent the weekend with him. When he came back late march 2012, he asked me to be his girlfriend, and i said yes. It's May 2012, and this relationship, as bad as i want it to work out, is almost stressing me more than it needs to. Here are some factors: 1. Although he is only 20, he is very mature for his age. He has a lot of older brothers as role models, and I can definitely see that he does not act or look his age. (im 26) 2. He has never had a girlfriend before. Never brought any girls home, until me. 3. I have trust issues. they may have stemmed from past relationships, knowing too much of his sexual history (he LOVES women), not being able to build the initial trust with someone who you get into a relationship with because of distance or it may be all of the above combined. 4. He is very social and flirty. 5. He has a BAD case of elevator eyes. I know boys will be boys but when we are out, and a girl walks into the building or store or whatever he looks at her A LOT. Hes even been turned on looking at pictures while im next to him. which i find kinda disrespectful. 6. I've caught him lying/playing down a situation when he didn't have to. basically he somewhat interacts with his old fling on the same social network and when I asked him if he keeps in touch with her, he said no, but he lied. so when i told him i knew he was lying his excuse was that "he panicked and wasnt sure how to answer the question." but he apologized. I've asked him to be open about things, to name names of the people who he is hanging out with so that it doesn't look like he's hiding anything, as I am also doing the same. He oftens tells me he loves me and other sweet things, but no matter how great our relationship is going, if I hear one thing about a certain girl or activity he is doing, I automatically get jealous and feel like I can't trust him. For example, the other day there was a new student orientation at his school where the new students come in and get a tour of the school. He told me he was going to crash it for "free food" but in my mind I think he went to scope out the incoming students. I think it's hard to be in a long distance relationship when it first starts out because how do you really get to know someone if they are so far away and you are only able to see them one weekend a month or even two? He says his "dogish" ways were before my time and that things are different now because he's in love and has a girlfriend. i love this guy, but not sure if im actually IN love with him. He has about another year left before he comes back home, and Im not sure if i can wait it out. another big factor is, i'm 26 and he is 20. I know the future for us is not guranteed, and sh*t happens, so what if in 2-3 years he or I realize we are not meant for each other? he will only be 23, but I will be 29. My clock is ticking 6 years ahead, and I really don't want to waste anymore time in this department. The trust issue is one of the biggest things I am fighting right now. Maybe it's a deeper issue, maybe not, but I cant seem to get it under control. Yes, we already have talked about it and he tells me, "you're the only girl i want. i love you and only you. you think i would bring you home to meet my family if i wasn't serious about us?" which i believe 100% but there are things here and there that I find that really disturb me about him. He technically hasn't done anything "wrong" to make me not trust him, but the fact that I know how he was before he settled into a relatinship, how flirty he is, how he likes to check girls out, how we are in a long distance relationship, how he is still really young, makes it very hard for me to trust him. I don't know what to do at this point.

• Answer:

  I think you should slow down a little. Your already thinking about your body clock etc and it's really early days for you both. Also I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but I've seldom seen a younger guy make it long term with a older partner, I'm sorry but this is an observation I've made. Finally, ignore what he says - its just words, it's his actions which dictate what he's really thinking. I learned a while ago, not words but actions, they always give the game away and true intentions can be figured out.. Good luck Can you give me your opinion on my issue please: http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkRpeqvb8a2b8DIerICrWw8gBgx.;_ylv=3?qid=20120515004422AAzk75G