What would be a good back up plan?

My girlfriend no longer loves me, even though i still love her. Is this a good plan to win her heart back!?

• I've been in love with a girl for 3 years (since i was 14) , and i told her i loved her 2 years ago, and she told me she loved me back. However, 3 months afterwards, we had to break up, because she had to move to another country, far away from mine (UK). It was a devastation to me, because those months were the best months in my life, and we were certainly very passionate about each other each and every day. About 3 months later of crying myself to bed, hoping to get over her, i sent her an email, saying that i still loved her and asked if we could still be together. She replied back saying she was crying like a baby, and said of course. The next year and a half was really wonderful. She was so affectionate, loving and caring. But afterwards, from the past 9 months, she has been gradually becoming less and less loving. She hasn't said 'i love you for almost 6 or 7 months (not even on valentines day) and i am ALWAYS the one to initiate the conversation and texts. When i speak to her on the phone, i'm always the one who comes up with the topics, while she just says 'yes', 'no' or 'maybe' for the WHOLE conversation. So, last week, i asked her straight if she still loved me. She replied by saying no. After our conversation, she sent me these texts: 'i just like the relationship between us now. We've had such a good time so far. I think love is a really heavy word, a commitment. I'm not ready yet. But i still care.' I didn't reply. She sent me this afterwards: 'I really hope you can understand what i said :-) i can't think if anyone who treats me as nice! So, you are always most important! Take care.' So it seems as though she just wants to be friends. But i don't want to be just friends with her. If i'm not her lover, or loved by her, then it breaks my heart, and i can't stand the thought of her liking another. So, since i'm 18 soon, i'll be able to apply to get a Visa to her country. And not only that, but i know her address and her school address. The present arrangements are that i'll visit her next summer, and live with her and her parents in their apartment for the summer. During the time, i plan to -somehow- win her heart back and share our first kiss together (we never kissed on the lips in the first 3 months together, even though we held hands and i would kiss her on the cheek). But i'm wondering if it'll be better if i tell her i want to leave her. Like 2 years ago when we both decided to stop being with each other, she'll rediscover her feelings for me, and will want to be with me as a couple. If i leave her, i will do whatever i can to become more handsome, more fit and work everyday to save up the £700 and visa i need to catch a plane to see her next summer. Then i'll find her family's apartment and surprise her and the whole thing will be like a fairytale (i hope!) Will this work? Thanks for your time P.s. i assume that she wouldn't find a boyfriend to replace me, because she has declined other boy's requests to be their girlfriend before since she told them she is too busy, and she'll be moving country again next year by going university. So it won't make much sense to get a boyfriend now.

• Answer:

  I think your a very nice person for doing something like this, but she isn't worth it. If she doesn't love you, move on! Imagine how awkward it would be if you spent over £700 preparing to see her and she says she doesn't want to be with you...What a waste! I say just go out and find somebody who loves you, for who you are. Someone who treats you right, because that's what you deserve :)