Should I break up with my boyfriend?

Should i break up with my boyfriend of 2 years?

• sorry i know its long! Me and my boyfriend have been dating since the 10th grade and im now 18 about to graduate highschool..i just don't know what to do he is very controlling and his jealousy is overwhelming..he controls me in the most ridiculous ways! I love makeup and he tells me i look better without it and i thought that was so sweet when we first started going out but then he started saying i couldn't buy any makeup and that i can only wear a little bit of it and sometimes when i let him have a hold of my makeup he won't give it back.recently i have wanted to dye my hair and get a piercing he said no and i told him i really wanted them and he kept saying no then i told him well i want them so im getting them done then he says (which he uses for everything) "All you want to do is live a single life!" like wtf those are rights i should have as a person not things you should have to ask permission from your bf! and he tells me i have changed for the worse that i dress with more revealing clothes and wana go crazy when he met me i was 15! of course i changed and im not even comfortable with my body i don't wear very revealing clothes maybe a skirt (with leggings!) and a tank top (but with a jacket/sweater always on top).then he tells me i can't do anything during class so he takes away my phone and i understand i have to do good in school but he doesn't even try he has bad grades! while i maintain good grades in school! and when he is failing a class i tell him "see and you say i don't pay attention" he goes on saying its because you don't push me hard enough to do my work and i push you thats why you have good grades! like no i have good grades cause i work hard! he also makes me sleep early and he stays up late and he tells me its because i always complain about being sleepy and that i need my sleep..he doesn't like me talking to any guys i understand that but it gets to the point where i can't talk to guys AT ALL i have a gay friend and only talk to him and he says no guys because they can hit on me and when they do hit on me i delete them and block them because im faithful but he thinks every guy is going to hit on me so i can't talk to none!..then he hates when i go out with my friends or hang out with them more and don't give him attention when we hang out 24/7! he doesnt have friends (cause he gave everything up "for me" and feels like you should give everything up for your bf/gf and pay attention to only them) so he only has me and my friends and what i hate the most is when he gets mad at me and decides not to talk to me he ignores me the whole day saying he is mad and talks to everyone but me it hurts my feelings...we have tried so many times to make this work and im not saying i am the best girlfriend i have gotten mad at him and have called him names and have done pretty mean things to him too basically but ive changed a lot for him and he doesn't appreciate or see it and he still is with his old ways..idk what to do i can't stand this relationship but i also remember the good times we had and it makes me cry! we had such wonderful memories! we planned on getting married and i even lost my virginity to him i thought we were going to be together forever! he tells me he is controllig because he is scared of me leaving him well that back fired because now i can't stand him and he says he is insecure about himself so thats why he doesn't let me talk to guys or wear certain clothes cause hs is scared some guy will snatch me away but its dumb because i feel like he is insecure with out relationship as well because he doesn't feel comfortable thinking someone will break us up..and now idk how im going to break up with him he'll cry and make me seem like the bad guy in front of everyone saying i broke up with him and im also very close with his family! they are like my family since i don't have a good relationship with mine and after i break up with him ill lose them and maybe he'll talk **** to them about me so they won't talk to me anymore..everyone at school since its a very small school only 300 students will start talking and i dnt want ppl to be like "omg what happened?" and at the end of the day i know its not going to work we have tried and tried and it just doesnt i feel bad for letting it go this far i should have broken up this relationship a long time ago before we got closer and developed more feeling and fought more..he doesn't want to break up but i have told him are you happy in this relationship and he says not really and im not happy with this relationship but he still wants to be together and says we both need to change which i admit but ive done a lot of changing and he stays the same...i am still heart broken it has come to this i love him so much and he really is a nice person and does care about me a lot and has been there for me at my worst<3.

• Answer:

  Yep....get out while you still can! It will be hard and when you break up with a guy you break up with his family and friends too. You need that though, a clean break. You need to make yourself happy and quite frankly his controlling nature is scary. He sounds emotionally abusive too "I gave up everything for you". Yeah whatever, that was your choice i did not ask you too. Have the courage to break up and move on because I really don't like where this is headed. When you break up with him....do NOT say "I love you" that will just mess with his head. Good luck. I am looking from the outside in, this does not sound like a healthy relationship to me.