My 13 y/o daughter wants to use deodorant, wear thongs/g-strings, and shave her legs. (please read all)?

Ya umm you have some issues dear. You are being much to overprotective and overbearing. If you continue to absurdly control your daughter like this, she is going to rebel. Several of these things should be a substantial part of a hygenic routine. Otherwise, GROSS! Come on. It is deodorant. She is a teenager and she smells. She is not starting to smoke. She is trying to be normal and not smell like a pig. So you are willing to embarrass her in front of everybody to save her from a tiny nick? Seriously? A tiny little cut... That is very sad. She is almost fourteen and you won't letter have a tiny little nick? The g-strings and thongs thing: This is more reasonable. But a note, people do not always wear the to be slutty. It is rather rude of you to assume so. I wear them because it doesn't give me panty lines. Pretty legit. But honestly, this relationship needs some work. You are not being fair to your daughter. You need to let her grow and learn. I started wearing deodorant and shaving at eleven. And you also need to grow up. Harsh, but true.

Erm the thing and g-string is fine, but seriously she should be allowed to shave her legs and use deodorant for the love of god do you want your daughter to be the laughing stock of the school?

I agree that she should not be allowed to wear g-strings and thongs at this age though i think it is a bit harsh saying she can't until she's 22. she'll legally be an adult at 18 and you won't be able to control her anymore. Your daughter is not trying to "impress" anyone by wearing deodorant and wanting to shave her legs. She is simply feeling self-conscious about herself and is wanting to feel clean and well groomed. I'm 14 and i've been using anti-perspirant deodorant every day since i was 11. It is not part of being a kid, people want to smell fresh and clean, especially during and after sports. I find it strange that you think shaving her legs will suddenly cause boys to be instantly attracted to her. Does she wear shorts and skirts without tights? I reckon, probably not. So if not, then there's no way what you mentioned will happen, boys don't stare at girl's legs when they're covered up and they're more likely to stare at her boobs or curves. If your daughter is sensible she'll keep away from the boys who only care about a girl's body. Why are your ages so specific? Again, She'll be able to do that when she's an adult, which is 18. Cuts can easily be prevented by use of shaving cream. I've been shaving my legs since i was 12, but i have light, thin hair so i only do it every month and when i go on holiday abroad. Again, she wants to feel confident and cleaned up. I say let her use deodorant and shave her legs. Edit: Instead of restricting her, i suggest you try imposing good moral values like not drinking, not smoking, not taking drugs nor becoming promiscuous. These are more important things to worry about. I'm sure your daughter is very well behaved though.

You're a freaking nut job! She can't go around smelling like crap! Wearing deodorant and shaving her legs doesn't make her a grown up. She wants them so she can not smell horrible and not looking like a monkey in gym class. It will not attract the attention of boys unless they have a leg fetish. That's completely insane. If you keep this up she might actually be sent to her guidance counselor for hygiene lessons. You're making her smell disgusting because you think not smelling makes her a grown up. You aren't fit to be a parent. You are just insane. I really don't get this at all. I mean if you don't have a really good reason for not letting her do these things then you are just being plain mean. I don't shave my legs because I get horrible, horrible rashes, but I use the foaming hair removal! You really can't let her not do these things. It's neglect.

I can't tell if this a joke or not, I really hope it is. Deodorant is not just for grown women, it is for females who have reached puberty and now excrete a strong hormonal stench from their arm pits, it's disgusting and unhygienic for a kid of any age to go around smelling and she's probably absolutely embarrassed and self conscious. Shaving legs is not just for grown women, it's for females who have reached puberty and now grow thick itchy hair on their legs. By not letting her shave she has to wear pants 24/7, even in the summer, can't go swimming, and will be humiliated. It is not ok for a girl to go around with legs like a cave man. What does it matter if she gets cut, she'll bleed a tiny bit and then she'll learn to shave properly, she has to learn sometime, and if she doesn't make mistakes now she will later. I've been wearing thongs since I was 13 and it's certainly not because I'm a "slut", which is extremely trashy language by the way. They're so you don't have panty lines in jeans and sweat pants because guys will point them out and laugh and it's not something people want to see. When a girl reaches puberty she IS a woman. You can't tell her what to do after she's 18. If you keep being this strict and non lenient on your rules, your kid will grow up to rebel and make a lot of mistakes.

I think you are totally mucked up in the head and not letting her use deodorant or shave is basically putting a neon sign above her head begging people to bully her.

first off, 13 almost 14, that's what, grade 8? she should be allowed to wear deodorant. it is a crucial part of personal hygiene. if you don't let her wear deodorant you are depriving her of cleanliness. at the very least you should be letter her use one that is not an antiperspirant one. secondly, thongs are not as bad as you might think. they don't show underwear lines in pants and they are comfortable. your daughter is not a slut if she wears something that nobody can see. do you even let her wear a bra?! you are 2 million percent insane if you are making her wait till she is 19 to shave her legs. are you really this stuck up? i started shaving my legs when i was 12. it is disgusting to have hairy legs and not do anything about it. you should let your daughter look and smell clean and tidy, not like someone who looks like trash. sounds to me that your parenting is terrible. if you do not loosen up on your horribly strict parenting styles your daughter is going to start to rebel against you and then you are really going to start to feel like a bad parent. also, please learn to spell told* slutty* impress* attract*

This almost amounts to mental child abuse. Deodorant - cancer in a can - it has not been proven that aluminum-based deodorants cause cancer. Shaving her legs - do you want her to be called monkey girl? Ok, I agree with you on the thong/g-string aspect, they do look slutty

The deodorant: My mom allowed me to start wearing deodorant as soon as I hit puberty. I was around 10 I believe. Deodorant was created to protect against body odor and when it starts I personally feel is a must. The non-aluminum thing, is just keeping her safe if it has been proven to cause cancer if you ask me. Wearing g-strings and thongs: My mom didn't allow me to wear them until I was about 16-17. Yes they keep from your pantie lines from been seen when in certain outfits, but I personally feel they weren't made for children of her age. Shaving legs: My mom didn't want me to do that until I was 15. I got teased because of my legs being hairy at 12-13 (I went to a catholic school so dresses were the norm) so I started shaving on my own and causing more cuts then I would have if my mom would have gotten the chance to teach me. I get not wanting your child to grow up, but there is no stopping that. If she is not being teased now, she will be due to some of the rules you have set, mainly the deodorant and shaving her legs part. If you raised her right and taught her to respect herself you will not have to worry about her acting out or getting too boy crazy. If a girl is pretty boys will look, but that doesn't mean she has to be with any of them because she is doing any of these things. If she feels too restrained she may go on her own and do these things without your permission and might end up causing more harm then good (Like I did with shaving my legs).