Whats the best thing for a cold during pregnancy?

My Pregnancy is ruining my relationship, whats the right thing to do. (sorry, its long)?

• I feel scared. I'm 21, and in school, I have exactly one year left of school ( I should graduate in May 2013 in radiologic technology) yet am due January 4th. I am supposed to go back to school January 17th off christmas break. That gives me all of 2 weeks to heal :/ My boyfriend and I were not being safe, because I have a pituitary tumor which prevented me from EVER having a cycle. Therefore I've alawys been told I could not have children. He knows I'm not lying about this, as we've been together 6 Months. He was my first everything and up until I was pregnant everything was perfect. I know he feels a lot of pressure and is insecure about being able to support the kid. He dropped out of college after 3 years, and has some pretty significant student loans, some of which are hitting his credit. He had a decent job but when his moms husband died, he moved with her, and now works overnight at walmart and pays for her stuff CONSTANTLY. Shes obviously pretty resentful I'm pregnant. All we do now is fight and I mean constantly. I am a very high risk pregnancy because of the hormone imbalances caused by the pituitary gland ( I'm on supplements for everything it seems). Yet this doesnt matter. I had to install the air conditioners by myself which were 60 pounds, flip and move the couch by myself, etc, its like he feels no responsibility. I LOVE MY KID even this early on, so I cry everytime I do these things but have noone else to help. My dad is an alcoholic, but he loves kids and I know hed pay for everything for the five months I was in school until I graduated ( I just had to quit my full time job while in school full time because it required me lift 50 pounds). My dad lives over a hour away but is VERY cautious of every word he says and wants me to keep it, as he was there when I had my first brain surgery and sees this as a miracle. He makes a lot of money and loves us But he does drink A LOT, and things do get bad (like I wont talk to dad for 2 months straight) about once a year. I always resented my parents for there abusive relationship, and this relationship is heading that way. I could not sleep last night, and anytime I would even touch him hed scream at me to "STOP bad word ..touching him". It hurts because then I want to hug him or something but it just makes him more mad. Its been like this for days and Ive offered to take us out to the movies, or just let him sleep, and he hates me no matter what. Im tired of fighting and we both know were forcing this. I don't like how he makes me do things he know will hurt the baby. I know he couldnt pay child support, and I KNOW hes too lazy to find another job, as I have turned in the resumes for him. HES NOT MOTIVATED AT ALL for this child. If the child makes it, should we stay together and HOPE it works? I dont want my child to resent me for this horrible relationship and have to deal with his screaming. If we do break up, since he works overnight would it be a bad idea to let him watch my child while im school? All he ever does is play video games and sleep. Should I find a mediocre job and drop out of school so I KNOW my child wont be endagered (since he couldnt pay child supprt Im pretty sure I could obtain full custody). Mostly do you stay with someone who screams 24/7 and does not love you anymore if you know it has a chance of making the childs life more functional. Im scared of breaking up ( I DO LOVE HIM JUST NOT AS MUCH AS THE CHILD) and Im scared of staying together.

• Answer:

  Congratulations on your baby! I am sorry that you are dealing with this, especially being high-risk. However, I say leave him. If he doesn't want to be with you, you can't make him love you. And if he isn't wanting to even help you NOW, then he definitely isn't going to help when the baby gets here. It's going to be like you're a "single" mom anyways, even if you DO stay with him. Because he doesn't seem as if he is grown up enough for a child. It's not going to be functional at all if you stay, your child and you are going to just be miserable. I say, go move with your dad, at least until you can find somewhere to live. Don't drop out of school. It may seem hard now, but it WILL be worth it in the end. I also have one more year of college, and I am also 21. I have a 7 month old daughter and her father works all the time, however we don't fight. I would leave him if our relationship was like your's, despite how much I love him. I too love my daughter more than him. Don't be ashamed if you need assistance from the government in your situation. There are so many people that get it, that doesn't need it, HOWEVER in your case, you need all of the help you can get. Don't let ANYONE make you feel bad for getting pregnant. It is also his fault! You are definitely right, you have a miracle baby growing inside of you. Move out, stay with your dad (even though things are the best with him, at least he wouldn't be abusive towards you, I would hope), stay in school, get your degree, then continue your life with your child. Your lives will start getting so much better after you move out, I bet. He doesn't deserve you or your baby. And I say take him for child support anyways. If he doesn't pay it, he will go to jail, maybe he will grow up. But I would still not take him back, but these are just my opinions. If you have any doubts of staying with him, I say go. And if he causes you trouble, put a restraining order on him. But the way it sounds, I don't think he will. Remember, the more stress you have, the more your baby stresses. Good luck with everything, I really hope things work out for you.You sound like you have a great head on your shoulders!