Would you date a girl with a kid?

Is it okay to date a girl who has a kid?

• Guys, if you are aged 16-23, would you consider dating a girl of the same age that has a kid? 'Cause I think my ex, 21, is hitting on a girl who's at the same age and has a 2-year old kid, I'm 17.

• Answer:

  I'd say there's nothing wrong usually, but of course things differ. For example, one of my friends (25) is dating a woman (23) with a three year old son. Both adults are working, and the child is happy and in a stable environment. My friend loves them both and is going to propose :) I have another friend (17) who is going out with a girl (also 17) with a nine month old son. The girl has schizophrenia and my friend is basically only going out with her because she's the only person that will sleep with him. She's only going out with him because he buys her food. This sort of relationship is not advised ;) However, if your ex is happy, and wants to make the relationship work, it's really got nothing to do with you. If he's just hitting on her because she's cute, or has a reputation, but doesn't want anything to do with the child, then that's not fair on her baby. But that's his issue to sort out not, his seventeen year old ex-girlfriend (I mean that in the nicest way). If I were you, I'd move on, get a boyfriend (hopefully with no child :p) and just have a "normal" relationship. (Oh, something else to bear in mind. I don't know if you're wanting to talk about the situation to him/warn him, but be wary that that might make him defensive about the relationship/whatever. Think about it- if you were a twenty one year old woman going out with a man with a three year old you were aware of, you probably wouldn't appreciate your teenage ex-boyfriend coming up to you to "warn" you about it.) Hope I've helped!