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Why can't I make an attachment?

I feel like a slu*t.... the thoughts i cant control.. why?????????

  • i am 30 yr old married for 5 yrs women...from asia where we dont chat to boys much..... when i was 24, i start to chat with my senior in college... first he showed genuine attachment and attraction . i mean pure love ... but later when i confess i like him, he started to send cheap & hot messages.. i got conscious & angry but than i just accepted it & start imagining thinking that he will marry me (i never even talked to any other boy befoer that & in our country we have se*x only after marriage) .. but he didnt intend to marry rather he was showing all my texts to his friends to make his repo that he flirt with me.. but i imagined about him everything.. i chated to him on phone whole nights & felt everything.. but he never even touched my hand.. after 2 mnths he stopped talking.. & i was like a dead without him.. i told him i will kill myself but he didnt cared & i start getting cheap messages from all college boys.. so i understood that he was joking with me & i am defamed now... but i felt so much about him that i couldnt control my feelings & i just wanted to be with him.. than my parents beat me for doing so wrong and married me to my current hubby.. otherwise i was intelligent & had good job.. but after that incident i wanted to die out of shame & i developed hate for myself... i felt inferior compared to other grls who have patience & dignity more than me... i just throwed myself on him knowing that he is not so serious... so my husband also didnt liked my personality as i was broken at time of marriage & he withdrew his interest & start avoiding me.. moreover my face expressions of a slut make him uncomfortable when i walk with him.. than he start flirting with other girls & dont even talk to me.. & he like to put me more down ... when i start behaving little normal he again try to put me in same condition by flirting with ohte r girls .. he like it.. and even i dont respect myself... i still hate myself for feeling those dirty things in mind without marriage.. i feel so mature & unwanted & like a trash......i cant feel happiness or any normal feeling What should I do??????? if i behave nice my husband loves me & respect me .. But for me only it is so hard to behave good.. i feel like a loser slut/...... i was so hardworkng & carer oriented before first incident (at 25 yr od age i was bank officer) .. but now i am just like illiterate women.. always thnking about why i exist.. i am dirty & bad... how to respect myself......

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    Yes you can save yourself. Due to too much wrong pictures received, your thinking is become upside down. Tips to recover yourself is as follows. 1.Do good daily exercise such as gym or running. Than you can reduce useless thinking and become relax. Also your face and body will returm as bright and brauty. Than they will think you differentely Second do hard study for future good job. Than you can have hope. Last love yourself and read very good book to see real yarget for life. Than you will think as high mind and novel. Everything ready, than you can do as you wanted.

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Put your past behind you. Forgive yourself and start looking forward. I don't understand or agree with culture over there but that's the best advice I can give you. Forget about what you did and move on from it. Start to love yourself again and soon others will too

joe

You are human. Humans make mistakes. Forgive yourself, because God will, and let go of those feelings. do not let your husband disrespect you. Tell him that it was an evil man that did this to you and you do not want him to become evil also.

PEGGY S

don't be cruel to yourself, only love yourself as a unique person and do not compare yourself to other girls, they just masturbate all the time, they pretend to be dignified but really they are good at lying. you are just a sexy person there is nothing wrong with that its natural. some people have higher sex drives than others. Some people only want to have sex once a year and some people want to have sex 10 times a day. We are not all the same you have to respect yourself as a unique person and never compare yourself to other girls.

thelemonsalad

Very interesting to learn about foreign cultures. Thank you.

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Michael

So ALLAN..you are an Asian Woman huh? hmmmmm I smell bullshyte.thanks for the two points tool

Australian women are usually made of sterner stuff. You cannot forget your past only learn to deal with it. When you soil your underwear, you was it hang it out to dry and change and start with clean clothes again. That is normal life; and that is precisely what you most do here. Hold up your head nearly every one has something to hide in their make up, that only they know about. The longer you live the more mistakes you make, it is unavoidable. Hang your past on your clothes line and start afresh. Look after that good forgiving HUBBY.

octogen

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