How would you report threats to the police?

(Very detailed question)If police wont help us, who will..?

• Sorry.. but it's hard to understand when you dont know the whole story... This is the problem police ignore..: You know the saying "if you tell a lie long enough, people will start to believe it"? Well that happened to my mom when she married my dad. Sometimes, especially with me, he got physical. But he was incredibly emotionally, verbally, and mentally abusive to my mom. Even in public, people would turn their backs when he got angry. (the creep even brought other women home) She believed no one cared enough to help. She had two young kids and knew couldn't make it on her own. With all his threats, she feared he would kill her and my little brother and I. The police had been called a couple times, but my dad would leave the house and with no proof, police would leave left soon after. After all, there were no bruises. And apparently according to the law, unless its visible or sexual abuse, you don't matter enough to have it investigated. When I was six we finally moved. We told a cop in our new state what happened, and asked how to go about getting a restraining order. His reply? "Hahaha dont be a silly woman. He doesn't even live here. You're fine and have nothing to worry about, ma'am." So imagine how that made my already broken mom feel? He would send threatening emails all the time.. call my mom multiple times a night to yell, blast loud music, or just breathe in the phone. If mom didn't answer, he left voice mails. She would have blocked him but she feared he would file for full custody. (he made it clear he didn't want his children, but he knew it would mess with my mom's mind.) Even miles away, he had control over her. We'd tell police and they just told us to keep record of the emails "just in case." I know this might seem bad.. but when they got divorced (just before we moved), he was able to see us during the summer, a couple days each year. At the time we were too young to understand that what he did was wrong, and my mom didn't want to fill our heads with her experience. She wanted her children to grow up with a dad, and her self esteem was too low to think she'd find anyone else. So until I was about 10, we visited him once a year. Then I figured it out. He never payed for our visits, never called, never a card for our birthdays, and I started having nightmares about what happened(I always remembered, but like I said, I didn't know it was wrong.) I realized on my own that he was not a good father. I accepted that he really didn't care. We stopped visiting after that, and I suppose you would think all is well, but its not. He still calls. Still emails. Every couple months its a clip of a coin on what angle he tries. Sometimes its the fake "I love my children and you brainwashed them and it was all your fault for everything and you cant keep them from me so put them on the phone!" And he was sweet to us. Other times all he did was bash on mom. I knew it, too, but what could I do? Now, I've just turned 18. A couple months ago he texts me out of no where. "Let me speak to your mother. Now." I was always intimidated but I finally got the courage to speak my mind. I told him off, told him I remember everything, that I was done pretending, that he was sick and I wanted nothing to do with him, and that his control over us was gone. Needless to say.... he didn't take that well. Turns out he some how (we really have no idea how) he found out my mom was getting married, and thats why he sent me a text. (Married! Can you believe that?! Sweetest guy in the world, too, Im so happy for her!) Well, we moved and never told him or anyone who knew him our new address. Problem is, we moved just a month before the marriage was official. Therefore it was under my mom's old last name for a month. All he had to do was go to a site, type in her name, pay 99 cents, and he was given a whole crap load of our information. Including our address. Imagine how happy we were to find this out :( Now that my mom is more aware of how to handle his threats, and A LOT less afraid of him, its not as bad. But we still want him to leave us in peace. We tell police and they say "unless he acts out on his threat, we can't do anything about it. Just save the emails he sends." So, all in all, police dont stop him until he drives down here and kills us. SERIOUSLY?! The law gives him more protection that it gives us! He even gets away with not paying child support! No one, not police, lawyers, or any others of the people we've contacted, help us. I'm not afraid, I'm just pissed. Are we seriously going to have to take this? He'll report US if mom blocks contact from him because she's "keeping my kids from me and filling their head with lies!" Being 18, im safe enough to block him. But my brother cant, therefore my mom cant either. What do I have to

• Answer:

  wow I'm really sorry to hear this and I will be praying for you. but I know who will help you... go to http://www.thehopeline.com/CSDefault.aspx and get help. they have trained staff waiting to talk 24/7 and they will definitely be there for you! and if you would rather call them here is there number 1-800-394-4673 (HOPE) Whatever you do GET A HOLD of them they will do far more than just listen and give advice, they will set you up with everything you need. I hope this helps;)