Why is my mom allergic to Tuna in a can?

I'm a guy and my mom thinks I have an eating disorder and wants me to see a doctor?

• Basically I've lost a lot of weight since the beginning of the year because I've been dieting. I'm 13, male and 5'4 and about 95lbs, I mean idk but that still seems like too much to me. I think I could do with losing another 10lbs or so. I've been working very hard since the start of the year to lose weight because I used to be about 125lbs and I'm quite proud of myself for losing 30lbs but still feel a bit fat :/ My mom says I haven't been eating right and she tells me how skinny I am now and I look too sick and how I've lost too much weight. She's told me she thinks I have an eating disorder :( But I'm a guy and I don't think that's even possible!? Here's what I eat in a typical day -- I don't have any breakfast at all, then for lunch I have a chicken sandwich and an apple and then for dinner I might have a small tuna salad or small portion of pasta with a few vegetables. After dinner I might also have a banana or a small bar of chocolate but not often as I usually just have my dinner and that's it. I don't think that's a bad diet and I'm working on cutting down some more. Everyone tells me I'm too skinny but I'm still quite fat and now my mom has made an appointment at the doctor's for me on Friday and I really don't want to go. What will the doctor do? Will he want to weigh me because I don't want to be weighed, it's horrible in front of other people! I mean my mom weighed me the other day to try to prove a point of how much weight I've lost and it was horrible and I felt really judged being made to step on the scale like that in front of her with her judging me. I always weigh myself on my own. Also I kind of have another problem which is making me panic and it's that I sometimes cut myself when I get stressed but my mom doesn't know about this, nobody does because I keep my arms covered. I have some scars on there obviously from where I've cut myself but if I see a doctor my mom will find out about me cutting then what will happen? Will I be sent to see a therapist? I don't want to talk to a therapist because I'm shy really and not very talkative and wouldn't know what to talk about :/ Do I sound like I have an eating disorder? I just want a way out of this but my mom will make me see a doctor :(

• Answer:

  you sound as though you are in the early stages of anorexia. and i hate to say it but your mum is doing the right thing by taking you to the doctors. you are eating around 500 calories a day - your body needs at least 1,200 to keep running. you're seriously not fat. The doctor probably will weigh you, yes. But you shouldn't feel judged, he's there to do his job and at the end of the day really doesn't care how much you weigh. As you're 13 they probably will tell your mum about the cutting as you are putting yourself at risk. I can't say how your mum will react but i'm sure she loves you no matter what and everything that she does/is doing/will do is in your best interests. You will most likely be sent to a therapist but don't stress over it because they deal with adolescents like yourself every day, not talking isn't something new to them.