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Why can't I make any friends?

  • Not to sound arrogant but: I am not ugly. I am smart. I am a good kid. I get good grades. I don't drink or smoke. I like anything besides sports(except for a few...aka baseball and track) I am good when it comes to music, math, and science. I don't annoy people. I think I am a good friend to know, I think I am actually worth getting to knew if people spent the time to get to know me, open up, and tried hard at it...no one seems to want to though... and I know it is all because I am shy and quiet. I wish I had a girl friend already...or my first kiss...I am 18...and got nothing. Yeah because I am shy and quiet, but there are many shy and quiet kids, probably worse than me who manage to make friends better than I can, and shy quiet people who manage to get a girl friend or their first kiss already... What's wrong with me? Why can't I attract anyone of interest...and why don't people I can become acquaintance with, but I can never get to the friend level...I try asking to hangout...no...I try holding regular conversation(but not asking to many questions to annoy them or going to deep/personal in case they are uncomfortable or don't want to say in public...since they won't hangout with me in private..) What am I doing wrong? I know this is kind of difficult to answer....but I have no idea...besides it is hard for me to open up in front of others, or to say hi to a person in front of my class mates...and I try to get a perfect moment where they are alone and private...but I can never actually get it out in front of other people...especially if they don't make eye contact...it is like during those moment, negativity, and looking at the bad side that could happen, will happen and block me from doing it...and I can't change it because I don't want the bad to happen...so I don't...

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    Aw I'll be your friend :P you sound like a fun and a nice person to hang out with :) maybe don't be so shy and talk to new people.. When you look at people smile at them and don't give them dirty looks :D and just be yourself ;) good luck xx

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U sound like ur an HSP. Not that u actually r, I don't know. 1/5 of the people in the world have it. Look it up on Wikipedia: Highly Sensitive Person

u sound like a really great guy. i would totes be ur friend. i was shy too. hi is just 2 letters and smiling is good too. if u have and fb account thats a good place 2 start. im really loud now coz of facey. i dont mean to sound all mummy but just be you ur a great guy so act it. bad things will happen no matter wot so relax and let the words come out. Good luck signed the awsmst grl in the world------> JK mackaela dunn (inbox me if u still need help)

Hello Tequan, Listen my friend you can make friends. But you have to remember that those who are around you who choose not to converse with you or who do not seek you out or make that important step towards friendship are better left alone, unless they are nervous themselves of striking up a conversation. You on the other hand are doing things the correct way, okay you may have to wait til you are alone with the person you want to talk to because of the shyness. Here is something to experiment. Hold on, before I mention that maybe because you are waiting for the right moment, some and I emphasise some people may perceive that as an uncomfortable feeling for them. Yet in saying that I do not think that is it. I think this is what you should do and this is only my own opinion because I was very shy when I was young. Yep, I was in the same boat as you, only thing was I wasn't as clever. Now to get on with the point at hand. Anyway, the next time you are not in a class and passing someone you know in the corridor/hallway just say hello or how are you doing. That's it the first step you don't have to say anything else unless they strike up a conversation. If that works try it in the class room that is all you have to do. Try that for a few days then try saying something like did you watch the game last night, oh it was brilliant then if there is no response do not worry carry on by saying well I better get on with this work that is needed to be handed in/done or finished didn't have time to do it last night. I know i am kind of going on a bit here but what about joining a group that is interested in the things you are good at like the math, music or science. You will probably find that there is someone who feels the same way as you in one of these groups. Even someone you can connect with. Remember one step at a time, stick in there do not faulter. Some of the greatest scientist and mathematical geniuses were shy at one point, even authors. Do not hesitate to email if you are still need some help, I will find something somewhere that can bring more clarity if needed. I do hope I have gave you some things to think about. Take care my friend and chin up, head held up high and go for it. Kindest regards and best wishes,Gerry.

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