Can some one please help me with a facebook group?

I really don't know what to do with this girl. Any help, please?

• Alright, I want to apologize for the length, but there is no way I can properly lay out the story without it being long. Thank you to all who actually read it! Okay, so I am a 17 year old junior in high school. This girl is the same. Her and I have known each other for a while, but never talked or saw each other until just over two months ago. We just happened to end up by ourselves after we went to a movie with a big group, we started talking, she gave me her number, and since then we talk or text almost every day and see each other at least once a week. Problem is, she is a very reserved and quiet girl, and she doesn't let her feelings show as easily as most of my girl friends do, so I have the hardest time figuring her out. Her and I are both huge baseball fans, and I have season tickets, so I take her to the local university's baseball games all the time. We go just together a lot of the time, and she has never said no. When we're alone we get along great. We always just joke around and subtly flirt with each other the whole time. We just talk the whole time, never with any awkwardness or anything. She is also my Chemistry tutor. She goes above and beyond the call of duty. She already has an incredibly busy schedule, with multiple sports, ungodly amounts of homework and tests, and AP exams to study for, and she still always makes sure she uses her very limited free time to help me out. She has spent countless hours tutoring me, and she even got up early and went to 7am mass on Sunday so I could come over to her house at 9am so she could tutor me for a big test I had on Monday before her girl friends came over that afternoon for AP studying. She ended up tutoring me until at least 12:30pm, and I treated her and one other girl to lunch afterwards. We also hang out together and in groups around the city all the time, and this summer we'll be right down the road from each other the entire summer because our lake houses are very close. About a month ago after what I thought was some obvious flirting all weekend from her, I stupidly called her up and blindsided her and asked her if she thought we had a thing. She paused for a moment and said, "Ummmm... no? (Like she was asking me) I mean, I guess I've never thought of us that way before. I don't really do guys." When I asked her what her last sentence meant, she said, "Well, I guess I just like to be best friends with guys." (She's not a lesbian or bi, so that still confuses me.) I kind of played it off like I was just checking because I only wanted to be really good friends with her and was relieved she said she felt the same. Weird thing is, I figured that would change our relationship forever, but nothing has changed (for the worse at least), and she never told a soul about it. I'm regretting that night big time... So a few weeks later, all of our mutual girl friends are really starting to catch on that I like her. They're all in her ear telling her how we'd be perfect for each other, the cutest couple, all that stuff. One night a group of our mutual girl friends and her were looking at Facebook pictures, and they came across one of me and her. One girl mentioned how cute we'd be together, and she said "You know how (my best girl friend) and (my name) are friends? That's how (my name) and I are. As of now I think I'd rather just be friends." I heard this from my best GF. The thing that I cannot figure out is if she is saying that because she really means it, or because she thinks that's what I want to hear knowing that my best GF is going to tell me. My best GF and my best guy friend are both really good friends with her, and both have told me to just take it on the slow side, and slowly open up to her. Then over the summer express my feelings to her. I've slowly started to drop hints, such as telling her she's amazing or how she is a special girl. I really think she has figured out I like her, or at least has a really good idea, because all her friends are in her ear telling her that I do. I'm just not sure what to do right now. I have so much going for me, her parents adore me, her friends adore me, they all tell her we should date, yet I just don't know how she truly feels. I want this girl so bad, but I can't quite figure her out. She's an amazing girl who I've fallen hard for, and I can honestly say I care for her genuinely and much deeper than her good looks. I think she knows this to an extent, but doesn't completely understand I'd do anything for her. This is going to sound weird, but I know I've gotten over the whole infatuation stage, because I see her faults, I see she's not perfect, but I like would do anything to be with her. Any help, please? Thank you!

• Answer:

  Honestly, I think when she said "I don't do guys" she meant she was too busy for a relationship at that point in her life. Number one thing, don't smother her-- she has an already full plate as you have mentioned. When she seems stressed about anything tell her you'll be there for her to talk about anything with and that you will be safe for her to rely on. Still spend the same amount of time with her and let her know how much you appreciate her taking the time out of her busy schedule to help you and how you admire her ethics (being able to keep up with her busy life) and still maintain. Women that work hard appreciate hearing that they are doing well, women need support, sounds to me like she needs a friend now more than anything else seeing as how she would hardly have any time for you if you were her BF and may fear it would turn out that you would resent her. Take care and hope this helped, feel free to do my question.