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Want to take a break. Girlfriend is pregnant. Advice on how to bring it up?

  • I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. Things have been kind of rough for bit now. In January we found out she is pregnant. I didn't think we were ready. She thought we were. She opted to keep the baby. She is 25 weeks pregnant. With twins. Due in late September. Our relationship has really suffered since and I don't feel as close to her. I really don't want to be a father and I kind of feel forced into this. Next weekend I am going with some friends to L.A. for a concert and we are going to spend 5 days just having fun. I really need the break. I don't want to cheat on my girlfriend but I just need some time to sort out my feelings. I want to be unattached during this trip. I don't want to feel guilty if things get out of hand. Ya know? I want to ask her for like a one month break for us to just figure things out. I think this is the best choice and I don't want to break up with her while she is pregnant with my babies. I need some advice on how to bring up taking a break and how to maybe convince her we need time apart. Thanks

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    Wow you honestly sound like an immature boy... Having a baby (or two) is very stressful just because you dont feel as close to her as you did before does not mean you dont love her. You need to stop and think about her feelings expescially sence she is pregnant, her hormones are taking over which will change her attitude tords things.. As the father and her boyfriend of two years you should want to be their fot her. It sounds like your just trying to make up an excuse to be single when you go to LA so you can do what you want without strings attached... Sounds selfish if you ask me and probley anyone else who has a heart. You need to stop and think it may be the biggest mistake of your life if you call it off for selfish reasons like what you have said, she could never want to be with you agin.. Then theirs child suport and two beautiful kids that didnt ask for an inmature daddy... I really hope she honestly leaves you... She deserves much better than a little boy that dont want to be a man. I hope you grow up before you realize what your looseing.... Good luck and its time to make the right choices.

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I gotta say that you definitely need to think about this. I mean...yeah you got "forced" into it. But she's just as "forced" into as you are. Not to mention, she's the one carrying the baby so it's not like she can just up and leave. You should re-evaluate your relationship for certain. BUT, you will be a father regardless of what you choose and you will have to have some kind of relationship with her whether it be child support checks or quality time for the rest of your life. It's not something you can walk away from when you feel like it.

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im going to be tough here - if you arent ready to be a father, why have unprotected sex?? you're going to be a father very soon and i think you need to grow up.. i dont mean to be nasty but this kind of stuff gets me worked up. if you take a break, be prepared not to get her or your children back.

Jess

The truth is, you're never ready to be a parent. It just comes and you deal. It's not something unusual for men to be freaked out about becoming a father. This can only be solved by talking to her gently explain it to her She'll hopefully understand. Surely there are other things she would like to do as a couple with you as well.

Fevrierxs

I feel so, so sorry for your poor girlfriend to have become pregnant by a little boy like you. She is pregnant. She is hormonal. She will annoy you and tick you off. That is normal. Pretend to be a man, and face up to it. She is baking the most incredible blessing in her belly, all for you, and your are too blind to see it. You need to be honest. You just want to find another girl to fool around with. It is PLAIN to see. Puke. Go ahead, screw up your life more, take your little break, mess up your babies' lives before they are even born, force them into a broken family with a lousy sperm donor of a "father". Oh poor, poor you. Hey, maybe when you are either on your break or cheat on her, you will get another girl pregnant, and then she will also be stuck with you for the rest of her life.

Rachel

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