How to I become more outgoing?

How do i become more outgoing without becoming douchie?

• im a 17 year old guy and i, along with most of my friends, consider me to be a nice guy with a really good personality and ive been told i have good looks . I do a lot of things for others and i go out of my way for people all the time. I also consider myself to be shy, especially around girls. I have friends who are girls, and im even shy around them sometimes. Ive never had a girlfriend nor have a girl intersted in me and i think its because im not outgoing, and i want one realy badly. I want to be more outgoing and be able to talk to girls with confidence but at the same time i want to keep the super nice personality and not give off a douchie vibe. ( I ABSOULTELY CANNOT STAND DOUCHEBAGS). How do i do this? also, its not like im shy aroudn eeveryone, once i know someone i can be very outgoing but i just dont know how to be that way around new people

• Answer:

  You don't really have to be a douche to be considered outgoing. Take real interests and hobbies such as painting, photography, writing, Yoga etc. You have to be really good at something you do, rather than following the crowd. Follow your own path without expecting people to notice.