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How can I get my brother to feel comfortable enough to "come out" ?

  • There's this kid who's gay and he's my brother's best friend. My brother knows the kid is gay but since he isn't a closeminded teenager he has no problem with it, they've been friends for forever. But then again, they buy each other things. Like the kid has a necklace with my brother's initials on it while my brother has a necklace with the other guys initials on it and they wear it every single day. Plus I've caught them snuggled up to one another when he spends the weekends with us. I've also caught a glimpse of a kiss here and there. I know my brother is dating him, I know he's gay too but honestly I wish he'd feel comfortable enough to come out to me. Like, I love gay people and I'll love him, it just sucks that he doesn't understand. So how can I make him feel comfortable enough to come out to me?

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    Ask him if he is truly in love with him. Express your feelings and let him express his. Maybe he's not comfortable yet. But maybe start off saying, "Brother, I love you, and no matter who you genuinely are, I will ALWAYS love you in the same way and I will never, EVER treat you differently". Before you say this, tell him you want to speak to him privately, and then tell all the above. Good luck, and I hope I helped! (:

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Glad you aren't a negative person. Anywho, just make simple remarks about how much you find gays to be "cool" or how you wouldn't care if a family member is homosexual or not. But all in all, he'll come out when HE is ready.

ha

Good that you're not a negative person but you can't make him comfortable to come out. He has to do it on his own. You trying to push him will lead to bad results: either he will be outed or he won't come out. You just have to let him work it out with himself. He'll come out when he's ready.

Marley

Say, "I like your friend (insert name here) and -- if you're gay, that's fine with me, you're my brother and I love you." And then just let it go. He's probably just learning to deal with it himself and may not be ready to talk about it.

esmerelda

You could try hinting, like "You guys would make such a cute couple" etc. Just friendly jokes. I wouldn't hint too heavily, I'm pretty sure he already knows you're gay friendly, don't push it. A lot of gay guys don't like faghags, I've come out to girls and have them say "I've always wanted a gay best friend! :)" And I hate that SO much. Don't be that person, just hint and leave it alone. He has to be ready, it doesn't matter how gay friendly you are.

blaaaaah

all you can do is just love on him and every once in a while just say something like you know i like your friend i am glad you two are so close or something like that just be the best brother you can please dont force him out of the closet though

Winston

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