Is it normal for me to feel this way?

Is it normal to feel this way for early 20's?

• Is it normal to feel this way for early 20's? Warning, if you have the attention span of a bird, please exit this and find somewhere else to be ignorant because I will be writing a lot. So I'll try to shorten what I have to say, but long story short: I am in the military (USAF) and 19 years old, and well at no point do I regret joining, but the reason I bring this up is because I know im not partying or having this awesome time like kids are in college today. So my question to you is "am I missing out". I know that sounds really lame.. especially if your older and maybe past that, but I understand we all have to grow up, and I accepted that when I signed the paper, but I think I'm at least entitled to talk about it. I won't lie to you, but I am sort of jealous of some of the people I am friends with over facebook. I see all these pictures with their best buddies all having a kick *** time, going to really cool events, having fun times just partying at their dorms, and having that general idea of a "group of great friends". A great group of friends that all get along, have common interests, share great times, and can show to the world of facebook that they are, and obviously within means of the law. I had my fair share of partying in high school and by all means it wasn't excessive, but it was fun. It was nice to be with your best friends both girls and boys, go shoot pool together, getting a hold of booze here and there, laughing about stupid stuff, or going on a crazy adventure and just doing fun stuff that had a positive atmosphere where no one really had to think about what they had to say because everyone was comfortable with each other. Well, I don't have that anymore. I turned my back on that for a career. I am with people from all over the country, and a lot of people are think and act differntly. I understand that there is bound to be a group of friends out there for me, and I am certainly being liberal about how other people feel and going out, but I want to be comfortable being who I am. I am willing to change a bit but I am not going recreate myself just to feel "part" in a group. Heres a super lame ecough, but it sorta cought my eye, but if you've seen the movie "Super Bad", you'll know what I am talking about. Having that best friend too go out party with and trust and if you got something on your mind, you can go head and say it. Maybe it is justhat'stupid movie, if thats the case, please stop reading and tell me so. Point is, I am sitting in my dorm, making good money, living comfortably, fed, housed, and working a great job, but I am alone, and a bit sad.. Sounds liftingal weak in fact, but lifiting,cardio, constant pounding in the Gym can only take your mind off loneliness for so long. I am not a socially awkward freak like some people are in this world and I know it sounds mean, but I am not. I am actually a great guy to tonguelong with, I've got a silver toung and a really smooth person to chill with. I get along with females real well here, but it's not sex or a girlfriend what I seek. I really hate to lay out some of my qualities, because everyone says there a "friendly" guy or a "cool" guythat'sang out with, but thats only for the person your talking to too judge, and well you don't know me in person. Yes you the reader. So, just take what I gave you and accept it, don't think differntly other wise I'll consider you ignorant. Deep down, the best way to put how I feel is like an old rusty working man. I feel old.. and that having fun or even being part of a group of best buddies is a thing of the past, a stupid highschool novel concept. I want to accept that, but at the same time I don't. By all means, I am in full gear to being a weathly educated person and nothing is stopping that, but is right to say I don't like alone? Or should I accept that I am working adult in the cruel world and that this is what life's about. Work, eat, get married, have kids, work, than die.. Seems like the novel idea of today's life. Is that what general defination of successfull and happy? If it is, tell me what I am doing wrong. If you made it this far reading, pat yourself on the back. Good karma is on the way. I promise.

• Answer:

  hi there I think it might be overrated and wonder why you are not getting some nightlife right now- I always imagined that the military had quite good downtime. I dont understand what stops you going to bars and disco's with your mates- I did read to the end but thought that out in the world you would have more opportunities to socialise - Try to find ways of getting your social life improved - are you able to meet local people - Its fine for a guy to go to a nightclub and dance alone and meet people but what about your friends in the military? I dont think you are missing out except that your regrets are eating into your time highscholl stuff seems pretty tame and it is only in order to reach maturity which you seem to have already - think of it like skipping a year in school and going up two grades instead of one and find yourself some social life. where you are.