What are some good ways to gain confidence?

Ways to gain self confidence and esteem?

• Hi I'm 15,been through a lot in the past in terms of depression, eating disorders and self harm, I have always been paranoid and negative and it makes me angry and upset, please can someone give me as many ways to prevent getting angry and stressed and ways to gain self confidence and esteem, especially to do with my body because I am extremely low on body confidence also I'm afraid to go swimming with friends cause my legs wobble and I feel large ,what shall I do?- thanks

• Answer:

  I know what it's like to have low self esteem. I'm 20, but when i was ur age, even younger, I was always made fun of, and people stole from me and tripped me in the halls. I was very skinny cuz I was on add medication. I weighed 65 lbs when I was 13. But after being tormented for so long, I got fed up and searched for ways to release this pent up anger and sadness. I came across a world-renowned psychic named sylvia browne who wrote lots of wonderful books on meditation, building self esteem, and the spirit world. I also came across two good rock bands, disturbed and korn. Disturbed helped me let go of my anger and showed me how to be brave and face all the haters and naysayers in my life. Korn helped me face a childhood trauma with their song titled daddy, which is about the lead singer being molested and his parents not believing him. I can relate because when I was eight, I was also molested. I hope that never happened to u, but eating disorders aren't exactly any less harmful tour body or your psyche. All people of all sizes and shapes can be equally beautiful. It's about looking itself in the mirror and loving urself for who u are and if u have the right wardrobe that matches ur insides and rocks ur outsides, then u should be just fine. :) I know with a lil work and meditation, u will be looking fly and feeling great. ^^ I hope what I said helped. If u don't like rock, then find a band or singer of ur fav genre that u can relate to cuz music is the best therapy for the soul. For mine anyways. Lol well good luck kiddo. :D